Originally Posted by Arcanum
Zackly. (I'm hesitant to 'conspire' behind B's back, but it may be the only way to have a useful discussion about it.)
Acceptance is an important milestone, but we find that as long as illusions persist, acceptance isn't really possible, and we go on trying to be accepting while continually encountering the need to accept, since our focus keeps forming things in our path for us to accept. It's actually the exploration of acceptance, which is fine. B's perception that he pushed your button which resulted in a rant is an excellent example of creating an illusion to be accepted.
What seems to be necessary is to collapse the illusions that make it appear as though there are things happening that need to be accepted. This requires some self inquiry turned toward the mind and this is precisely what can't happen when the focus is on not engaging mind and accepting that what is experienced must be 'what is'.
Yeah. Nothing is actually out of order and so if one is perceiving a problem, accepting what is would be to actually acknowledge that problem and not resist it or tell oneself there isn't really a problem and it's just a facet of 'what is'. Like all else, acceptance itself comes precisely when one is ready to accept and no sooner. I'd say that true acceptance could be said to be a direct result or side effect of clarity itself and happens spontaneously outside of ones own perceived control.