Originally Posted by ChrisGinsburg
Yep. I'd say on some level there's a belief that delusion is inherent to life itself and that ones own distortion of what is will never be lifted until perhaps death so it's best to just go with it. Ironically, trying to accept what is, is precisely what obscures what is or undistorted truth in the first place.
Zackly. (I'm hesitant to 'conspire' behind B's back, but it may be the only way to have a useful discussion about it.)
Acceptance is an important milestone, but we find that as long as illusions persist, acceptance isn't really possible, and we go on trying to be accepting while continually encountering the need to accept, since our focus keeps forming things in our path for us to accept. It's actually the exploration of acceptance, which is fine. B's perception that he pushed your button which resulted in a rant is an excellent example of creating an illusion to be accepted.
What seems to be necessary is to collapse the illusions that make it appear as though there are things happening that need to be accepted. This requires some self inquiry turned toward the mind and this is precisely what can't happen when the focus is on not engaging mind and accepting that what is experienced must be 'what is'.