[XeutonMojukai]

carenkh,

I think you need to put yourself out there until you find a man who wants to actively help you expand your comfort zone.

I say that for a few reasons:

1) I am one of those men and I need good advertising in general :P
2) Those men are impossible to tell apart from the rest except by trial and error
3) Once found, they help you because they want you to be perfect, and in the best-case-scenario: because they believe in your potential to be perfect.

Just remember: as unlikely as it seems that you'll find such a supportive man, you already have found at least one (me), and thus it shouldn't take much longer to find another if you keep putting yourself waaaay out there.

Before you think it's too scary, just think about this:

You're a fisherman on the water, and there's a school of fish, as well as a few of the special ones you're looking for.

If you use a small hand-net and look one-at-a-time, you'll have a hopeless experience, especially if the good ones are down in the depths, and not on the surface.

However, if you use a huge net, you won't need to take every single fish.

Just take the good ones and dump the rest to be found by others. maybe some of them have another fish beside them... leave those as well... no need to break up what's already working.

But when you find one of them alone, be sure to look into it.

There may be sharks, but you're protected by your boat, and once you find the right fish you can take it ashore.

If your net is large enough, it might only take one swipe to find the One fish that works for you.

~ David