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bigfoot · 11-27-2011, 03:23 AM

Was supposed to go on date today with girl I met at bar wednesday. She ended up having to cancel which bummed me out.

Also, I had interesting text exchange with girl I met through friend last weekend in NYC.

Asked her to grab coffee with me today. She replied with "have fun. Cant do saturday." I sent message back "you should invest 15 minutes getting to know me". Next day she sent a reply back saying "sorry we live in different cities and I could be your sitter (she was a few years older than me)". Couple of interesting points here:
1.) I got a response to "invest 15 mins" comment which was good, will use that again in this situation
2.) what is her true thought process here? Its not like getting coffee is big time commitment...probably she didnt do it because wasn't sure it would be fun. If she thought would be fun (because I was fun) she would do it just for the sake of having fun. Absent that, she goes through this rational screening process of i.) this person doesnt meet x,y,z therefore I dont want to invest any effort into them.

11-27-2011, 03:23 AM	#30 (permalink)
bigfoot Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: chicago Posts: 44	11.26.11 Was supposed to go on date today with girl I met at bar wednesday. She ended up having to cancel which bummed me out. Also, I had interesting text exchange with girl I met through friend last weekend in NYC. Asked her to grab coffee with me today. She replied with "have fun. Cant do saturday." I sent message back "you should invest 15 minutes getting to know me". Next day she sent a reply back saying "sorry we live in different cities and I could be your sitter (she was a few years older than me)". Couple of interesting points here: 1.) I got a response to "invest 15 mins" comment which was good, will use that again in this situation 2.) what is her true thought process here? Its not like getting coffee is big time commitment...probably she didnt do it because wasn't sure it would be fun. If she thought would be fun (because I was fun) she would do it just for the sake of having fun. Absent that, she goes through this rational screening process of i.) this person doesnt meet x,y,z therefore I dont want to invest any effort into them.