Hello there.
'...embarrassing as the fact that at 25 I live with my parents, with whom I don't get on.'
Living in Britain isn't easy these days. The government have done their utmost to turn the place into a debtors culture. Living with your parents at 25 is nothing to be ashamed of. People increasingly have to, since renting is expensive, particularly in London and trying to buy would be financially suicidal right now. I'm sure you don't hate your parents, but living with them especially while unemployed isn't good for relations.
'...I didn't take enough notice of the downhill slide to this point ... cutting off all social ties to friends who I didn't really like anyway.'
Yes it's upon you before you know it and you wonder how you got this way. Try and look at each of your old friends individually and decide what put you off each of them. Was it your mood that's behind it? It's easy to disregard people when your in a poor mood.
'Since last November I've been unemployed, living with the folks'
You need a job to get you going again, what sort of work did you do?
'...I feel this strange lethargy press down on my chest...'
Your depressed.
A suggested action plan based on knowing nothing about you:
Look for a job - even a £5/hour job at Waterstones is fine for a while.
Make a point of seeing your old friends regularly. Ask them about themselves - what is there about them you can like?
Get out in London if your have free time. Go to and see things you wouldn't normally bother with, galleries, museums (thankfully mostly free). You need more varied input.
As for the online business - this will take a while, can you break it into smaller projects?
You've posted about feeling like crap. What things do you like? The more you can say about yourself, the more specific the advice can be.
Simon  |