Well, I think you hit on part of it-- for an extrovert, meeting new people isn't something you think about--it just happens because having conversations and getting to know people is how we charge our batteries.
That having been said, it only works for extroverts because that is what feels natural to us. I see a lot of advice out in the world about how introverts can/should become more like extroverts and then they will be happier--but I don't think that's true. I'm friends with several introverted people and while they can "turn on"' in public--and even be very engaging with the strangers they meet in those situations they pay for it in a big way-- it's just not sustainable in the long run.
If I were you, I'd spend less time trying to be someone you're not, and more time figuring out how to meet people or grow relationships in a way that feels comfortable and even joyful for you.
Here are some ideas, but only you know what will work or not:
Join a book club--you will meet people who like similar things and you won't ave to make small talk
Meet people from the internet in real life for coffee etc.
Look for opportunities to spend time in small groups rather than large ones.
Good Luck!! |