 A thought on "taking control of your life"
As I browsed through various posts, and certainly in a lot of other contexts, I often hear or read folks say "I'm taking control of my life."
I just wanted to put out a lesson that I'm slowly learning, and find out others' take on it: That what I'm also needing to learn is where it's in my best long-term interests to either share or relinquish that control.
It has to do with a combination of things. To borrow from the serenity prayer, part of it is learning to accept the things I cannot change. Another part is the necessity to compromise in all of our relationships, and to sometimes sacrifice self for another or for a relationship, without crossing the boundary into co-dependency, martyrdom, or being a doormat. Another is accepting others' wisdom even if emotionally I'm set on doing something that wiser people are saying I shouldn't do.
So, what do other folks think of this - do you really need to be, and is it even possible to be, in control of your life in all ways all the time?
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