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Originally Posted by Matthew Shea  I don't know where you get the idea that I think seduction is pretending to be something you're not. I neither stated nor implied that. |
I hate to nitpick but....
You said "seduction is basically about manipulating people and I don't see now that could be a good thing." The word manipulation would normally infer that you think 'seduction' is something immoral. Generally people see manipulation as cheating people or in this case
pretending to be something you are not. If you have seen past this socially conditioned garbage then props to you.
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Originally Posted by Matthew Shea Besides that, if you see life as a power game, I feel very sorry for you. I see things very differently. Not everyone's first priority is to gain power over others. If you want someone's love and trust, such a self centered attitude toward relationships is going to get you nowhere. If you intend to control and manipulate, then you're certainly headed down the right track. |
The fact that every action you make WILL without doubt either increase or decrease your power does not mean your life purpose is to gain power. Duuhhh. It's just the way things are. Power is soemthing you need no matter what you are trying to achieve. However society has labelled 'power' as a dirty word, hence your emotional reaction to it.
That aside, anybody who truly understands seduction/attraction/game/whatever you want to call it, realises that for a person to truly love you they must know the true you... the good, the bad and the ugly. As Nietzsche says, "I must allow myself to be known and meanwhile know myself." Being yourself and totally upfront and honest is the only way to be.
P.S. I love your attempt to undermine me with the "then I feel sorry for you" bit. Classic way to demonstrate your moral authority over me and a great way to take away my power and gain power for yourself. My friend you are playing the power game. Manipulating me and the other people in this thread. And at the same time I'm sure you have honourable intentions towards other people, the same as I do. I'm sorry if I come across as rude on this forum but it's a way that gets people to think about what I'm saying...maybe even help them grow if they are man enough to take it contructively. Not saying that I'm perfect. Far from it.
The best of luck to you.