perhaps realize that you can have the pleasure without the negativity.
self-pity, for example, can simply be a subconscious search for compassion. In that case, you can create the feeling of compassion itself. Try feeling compassionate toward the part of yourself that is self-pitying. Or just put yourself in a compassionate state, or find something it's easy for you to feel compassionate towards and then notice that you are creating, holding, that feeling within you when you are and that you have the ability to call it forth.
Negativity can be a subconscious call for something that is important to you. If you can see what it is, then you can take the role of convincing that part of yourself that you will seek, create and sustain the positive without the negative thought-process needing to ping for it.
applying the appropriate positive feeling to the negativity that is really a need for it can make it go away fast.
if that is the case.
but it takes acceptance of the negative process to be able to 'hear what it wants'. You can't do this while fighting it, of course. You have to be sincere.
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