[cela]

Declan,

This is also something I struggle with. My husband and I both seem to mirror emotions we each experience – this can either bring us both up to super-happiness, or down to absolute misery (this is very rare, thankfully). What helps is a deep understanding of the connection we have, and a knowledge that emotions are very temporary.

It's almost like I can experience the sadness and frustration, but frame it in a helpful way. Generally, when we (DH and I) get moody or angry, it is a sign that we are moving to a new stage in life - 'growing pains' if you will. We're both able to acknowledge our crappy moods, and not blame the other person for making us feel that way (even though the mirroring still occurs).

Hope that helps.

Cheers,
Claire