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a lightworker isn't sacrificing their personal interests-- because their interest is the common good. they have a genuine desire to help other people... so they're actually feeding their interests, which is very fulfilling and rewarding.
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Yes, and sometimes I feel that way too. But it's not my primary or main interest. I feel that the darkworker path is right for me because I'm a natural introvert and loner -- a "geek" really.
For the most part, other people are something I can take or leave. I am content and happy with a computer, books and solitude.
The way I personally understand it, polarization is about "tiebreaking". It's a way to make decisions when two motives conflict. If I set "doing the best for me" as my
first priority, then I know what to do in those particular cases when my needs or desires conflict with those of others. This need not necessarily happen
frequently, and often there can be a compromise; but sometimes not, and those are situations or issues in which polarization is useful.
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*i think one could argue that a darkworker might pretend to be self-sufficient because he's afraid of putting too much trust in other people... or afraid of giving too much, and getting nothing in return [...]
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Yes, it's certainly possible for a darkworker to be motivated this way, just as it's possible, as I pointed out above, for lightworkers to be motivated by fear of "bad things happening if we don't save the world" ((
very common in certain political communities, from what I've seen).
I don't think it's true in my own case, though. I have no problem trusting people; I trust a lot of people in fact: my family, friends, people in the neighborhood, etc. I'm just a natural loner who likes being one.
Anyway, thanks for replying. This sure is a fun and interesting list.