Originally Posted by Maya2066
Wow... All these comments are really great. That's why I love this forum.
My understanding now is that in praying is a much more self-directing activity than we usually think. That we answer our own prayers sounds partly true to me. Through working on our self-limiting beliefs and the unconscious, we grow and move toward what we want.
Now I realize that it's not that my prayers are not being answered. It's just that I have to go through the process of learning my preferences, gaining in self-confidence and learning to trust my own mind. The past 8 months have been a great journey of growth with moments of frustrations and self-doubt.
I like the process of affirmative prayer described by TonyToneTone. The release part is the most difficult. I am volunteering at a place where I feel great to contribute to the mission of the organization and I'm working on a business plan that has helped me feel more in control.
But don't trust your mind. By "mind" I mean your logic. Trust your intelligence. When you're truly dealing with something you're experienced in, trust your intelligence. Where you KNOW that you don't know, where you don't have intelligence to trust, so realize that what your mind creates is logic and not truth. It creates an educated guess.
Your mind guesses at what it thinks makes sense but don't trust it as though it's true. Instead, test it and watch the results, understanding that the process of growing your intelligence is from testing your beliefs, failing, reflecting on what was missing in your logic and learning and growing from the mistake.
Let your mind do it's job, but realize that you don't know what you don't know so whenever you step into the unknown, you have to watch each step, looking for the flaws in your logic.
Failure is part of success. There is no success without failure.