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Originally Posted by Holistic Star  Hi Signum,
I've always been sensitive to other people's feelings. I expect it is easier if you are female as people aren't so surprised by it. I'm guessing it is harder if you are a young guy because it goes against the norm. That's not to say guys can't intuit feelings it's just that there is a lot of societal pressure not to show it and shove all those feeling down under macho bravado.
So where do you start and what do you do with it? Well the first thing to realise is that you have a talent for this. A gift if you like. However talent without discipline doesn't get very far. You need to learn how to control and develop it.
What you need to do first is learn how to ground yourself and not pick up emotions when you don't want to. It is very draining to absorb everything from everyone so learning how to switch it off and on at will will protect you and enable you to socialise when you choose. This was a very important part of my training. When I first started learning to do energy healing as soon as I touched a practise client I would absorb all their pain and burst into tears! Not very helpful for the client and not fun for me either. I had to learn how to deal with the painful emotions inside me so I could switch them off and help others. (I did this through EFT and other energy healing. I also think being Reiki attuned helped me learn how to channel energy and ground myself). It wasn't an instant process, but a persistant work on dealing with those uncomfortable feelings.
The next thing you need to do is learn how to develop your strength even further so you can use it to help others. I really enjoyened Sonia Choquette's book "Diary of a Psychic" in that it showed her development of her psychic skills. Yes she had a natural talent in communicating with the spirit world, but she had to learn how to trust and use it. It also showed that using your gifts isn't always the easiest path, but it is the most interesting! Now your skill is different as it is empathy rather than psychic, but I think you would find a lot a parallels in how to develop it. It would be great if you could find a mentor to teach you. You might want to consider putting out a request via LOA that the right mentor comes into your life to assist you with your development.
It can be very painful being privy to the feelings of others, it is also a priviledge and one that you can use to help them. I'm sure with the right development you will find the path that enables you to use it well.  |
Its when ever I look into someones eyes or their emotions are overpoweringly strong that I pick them up. Ive tried to block them out before but its like another sense for me. Its like me trying to stop the pain i feel when putting my hand on a stove. Not all of the emotions are bad, I must admit ive taken pleasure in taking in certain emotions ive come across. Not just pleasure but I love going to the movies with someone and seeing one That i have already seen so I can focus solely on absorbing their excitement surprise and laughter. Its like experiancing the whole movie all over again.
Its brought me pleasure and pain but I guess it balances out.
I just had a really hard time dealing being around people with really strong negative emotions. The worst is when im around people who dont know me, youd be surprised how much they distrust you before they get to know you, I guess its the fear of the unknown.
The strangest thing ive come across though are all the people uncertain with them selves. Theirs not as many closet gay people as people think. Most of them are struggling with their gay impulses others accept them. Some people who are in a gay relationship really arent gay they just want to be treated like the different sex. Im strait and in no way disrespect gay people, its just very ackward feelings that come from them that I'd rather not experiance so I tend to distance my self from them.
Strangely enough, girls enjoy sex more then guys do. Guys have a much deeper seeded desire for it though.
Whats even more surprising is people living lives just so they can fit in with the normal and desperately hate their lives but think its nessicary in the eyes of others.
Ah im rambling again... anyways...
yeah a mentor would be nice i guess, ive lived with it like it is up till now, i guess im happy, just wish I could trust someone in a relationship.
the longer im around someone the more I attune to them and pick them up easier... and I find things out that sometimes scare me.