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lightthecandle · 08-19-2007, 09:29 PM

Hi there ProjectX!!!!!!!

When I read your post I couldn’t believe what I was reading. I would have to say that 90% of the stuff you wrote or went through has honestly happened to me as well. Hey, at least your not alone right? I’ve been through the terrible nights/days/years where I walked around like a zombie pretty much in most of highschool and my first 2 years in college. But I have good news for you my friend…I truly believe you are going to be golden and accomplish everything you’ve ever dreamed of once you let go of all the emotional baggage you’ve collected through the years.

1. no one is perfect, even YOU, so accept that and move on with your life
2. once you SERIOUSLY tell yourself and believe that you don’t give a DAMN about what others think or say about you…you will feel this amazing sense of freedom..its so amazing I can’t even describe it..as if for the first time in your life you’ve truly breathed
3. you might think that you’ve “failed” in life. But the truth is…those who’ve fallen and gotten up again, and fallen, and fallen and fallen, but get up constantly despite fear, apprehension, are truly the ones who succeed and are the true winners in life.

…look at it this way…Bill Gates didn’t magically come up with Microsoft in one day…I’m sure he’s “failed’ his plan a 1000 + times, before he got where he wanted to be.

4. you’re 20, you might think that you’re old, but you’re only old if you believe that. Heck, I’ve met 60 year olds who are so silly I want to be there best friend!
5. you seem to blame a lot of your problems on your ‘messed up’ childhood. These forums are filled with people who claim they’ve had ‘terrible’ childhoods, but hey, they’ve gotten through with it!! And so will you, if you make a conscious effort to do so.
6. imagine as if you were placed in this world a second ago. You have no past at all to judge your future performance on. How would you act??? You’d want to explore right? The world is your oyster because you’ve just been placed in this world, and you are starting anew, no baggage, no hate, no regrets, no pain, no guilt, no financial problems, no jealousy. Sounds great doesn’t it? Well, you can start today, heck start now!! You’ve just been awakened after years of being too hard on yourself
7. it might be difficult at first but…you HAVE GOT TO CLAIM RESPONSIBLILITY in your life, and stop blaiming others for your problems.
8. there’s always going to be people who hate you..always…even if you’re the nicest person in the world. But then, there’s people who absolutely love you ( like your aunt). These are the people you should hold dear to your heart…not your h.school. enemies who quite honestly might not even realize they’ve hurt you so much. And then…there’s going to be people who just don’t give a damn about you. Seriously. But this isn’t anything to fret about…that’s just how life is.
9. right now, please don’t be so hard on yourself. (people used to say that to me ALL the time, like my therapists, psychiatrists, friends, etc. ). You deserve to live. You deserve to life freely. You deserve to be happy, you really do. All of us have some crap that we wished wouldn’t have happened or we wish we could go back to highschool and not cared so much what others thought. But, whats done is done. The past is the past. The present is in front of you, and your future is yours to make, no one elses .
10. suicide is not the answer. You coming on this forum and posting, shows that deep in your heart this isn’t what you want. You want to LIVE..and I hope these forums can be of tremendous help for you as they were for me.
11. you say your hope comes and goes. It does for a lot of us…but when you find something you’re passionate about and find something you truly want to excel at, you’ll be focusing more on that than about pleasing others and listening to others criticism of you. For me it was medicine. I want to be a doctor, and I’ve become truly passionate about that. I took two years off college and now I’m going back in the fall!! Others might say that I was being lazy, or a failure. But honestly, it’s the hardest and BEST decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m going back head on and ready for the world!!!

…sorry for the long post. But I really wanted to see that there ARE people who’ve been on similar terms, and have surpassed their past, and let go of all the emotional baggage that’s been eating away their life. ITS NOT TOO LATE. NOW IS THE TIME. TODAY IS THE DAY. CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER FROM HEAR ON OUT. IT MIGHT BE A SLIPPERY ROPE, BUT WITH HOPE AND FAITH IN ONESELF, COMES GREAT REWARDS.

I wish you nothing but the best!!!!! Good luck in everything you do!!!!!!!!!!

08-19-2007, 09:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
lightthecandle Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: in my mind Posts: 185	i see where you're coming from!! Hi there ProjectX!!!!!!! When I read your post I couldn’t believe what I was reading. I would have to say that 90% of the stuff you wrote or went through has honestly happened to me as well. Hey, at least your not alone right? I’ve been through the terrible nights/days/years where I walked around like a zombie pretty much in most of highschool and my first 2 years in college. But I have good news for you my friend…I truly believe you are going to be golden and accomplish everything you’ve ever dreamed of once you let go of all the emotional baggage you’ve collected through the years. 1. no one is perfect, even YOU, so accept that and move on with your life 2. once you SERIOUSLY tell yourself and believe that you don’t give a DAMN about what others think or say about you…you will feel this amazing sense of freedom..its so amazing I can’t even describe it..as if for the first time in your life you’ve truly breathed 3. you might think that you’ve “failed” in life. But the truth is…those who’ve fallen and gotten up again, and fallen, and fallen and fallen, but get up constantly despite fear, apprehension, are truly the ones who succeed and are the true winners in life. …look at it this way…Bill Gates didn’t magically come up with Microsoft in one day…I’m sure he’s “failed’ his plan a 1000 + times, before he got where he wanted to be. 4. you’re 20, you might think that you’re old, but you’re only old if you believe that. Heck, I’ve met 60 year olds who are so silly I want to be there best friend! 5. you seem to blame a lot of your problems on your ‘messed up’ childhood. These forums are filled with people who claim they’ve had ‘terrible’ childhoods, but hey, they’ve gotten through with it!! And so will you, if you make a conscious effort to do so. 6. imagine as if you were placed in this world a second ago. You have no past at all to judge your future performance on. How would you act??? You’d want to explore right? The world is your oyster because you’ve just been placed in this world, and you are starting anew, no baggage, no hate, no regrets, no pain, no guilt, no financial problems, no jealousy. Sounds great doesn’t it? Well, you can start today, heck start now!! You’ve just been awakened after years of being too hard on yourself 7. it might be difficult at first but…you HAVE GOT TO CLAIM RESPONSIBLILITY in your life, and stop blaiming others for your problems. 8. there’s always going to be people who hate you..always…even if you’re the nicest person in the world. But then, there’s people who absolutely love you ( like your aunt). These are the people you should hold dear to your heart…not your h.school. enemies who quite honestly might not even realize they’ve hurt you so much. And then…there’s going to be people who just don’t give a damn about you. Seriously. But this isn’t anything to fret about…that’s just how life is. 9. right now, please don’t be so hard on yourself. (people used to say that to me ALL the time, like my therapists, psychiatrists, friends, etc. ). You deserve to live. You deserve to life freely. You deserve to be happy, you really do. All of us have some crap that we wished wouldn’t have happened or we wish we could go back to highschool and not cared so much what others thought. But, whats done is done. The past is the past. The present is in front of you, and your future is yours to make, no one elses . 10. suicide is not the answer. You coming on this forum and posting, shows that deep in your heart this isn’t what you want. You want to LIVE..and I hope these forums can be of tremendous help for you as they were for me. 11. you say your hope comes and goes. It does for a lot of us…but when you find something you’re passionate about and find something you truly want to excel at, you’ll be focusing more on that than about pleasing others and listening to others criticism of you. For me it was medicine. I want to be a doctor, and I’ve become truly passionate about that. I took two years off college and now I’m going back in the fall!! Others might say that I was being lazy, or a failure. But honestly, it’s the hardest and BEST decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m going back head on and ready for the world!!! …sorry for the long post. But I really wanted to see that there ARE people who’ve been on similar terms, and have surpassed their past, and let go of all the emotional baggage that’s been eating away their life. ITS NOT TOO LATE. NOW IS THE TIME. TODAY IS THE DAY. CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER FROM HEAR ON OUT. IT MIGHT BE A SLIPPERY ROPE, BUT WITH HOPE AND FAITH IN ONESELF, COMES GREAT REWARDS. I wish you nothing but the best!!!!! Good luck in everything you do!!!!!!!!!!