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babygirl · 08-19-2007, 06:32 PM

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23. When I introduce people to people, I will show that I know something about that person. I will always put a positive spin on that person’s life.

“John, this is Mikey… superstar DJ from around the town and a very accomplished ladies man”

“This is Sammy… he’s training to be a cage fighter and someone you do not want to tangle with”

“This is Carly… she is one of the best dressed women I have ever met”.

Paying people positive complements in this way is very powerful.

24. I laugh loudly and freely. If someone says or does something very funny, I will not sit there and try to look cool by being all alpha, I will laugh out loud. I will let others know that I have found their joke funny.

25. Taking pictures

26. Mimicking their voice – This can be a very subtle, yet powerful generator of rapport. If a person speaks with an accent, I often copy that accent when I speak with them. I will often get **** tested for this, but I always persevere through to compliance. It helps to set a very light hearted and humorous undertone with the person involved. On a subconscious level, talking back to them with their voice also creates a strong connection with that person. I do this with guys and girls to great effect.

27. Mimicking their language/expressions – Everyone has a selection of words and expressions that they use over and over again.

28. Introduce people to people, or as the MM crowd would say “merge the sets.” When I am out, I am constantly introducing my friends to people I have just met and vice versa. ((I will usually add something like “She’s a good girl” or “He’s a good guys” (SEE PAGE XXXXXX)). You are actually connecting groups of people to each other and displaying that you are the guy who is

29. Taking an interest in people – I will ask questions and really listen to what they tell me. I try to have conversations with people that are a little deeper than the usual club/bar “chat.” I advocate building a social circle within a community, so I will see these people over and over again. When I next see that person, I will have a much stronger connection with them as I will know more about their lives. “How did your exams go?” “What was it like in Thailand?” “Did you win the football?” You are using common sense principles to get to find out more about people and their lives and you are creating strong rapport with them in the process.

30. I ask for help from others – I used to work at a recruitment business. When I was out and I got talking about what I did, I was often asked by potential job seekers advice on how to find employment. I would give them the benefit of my experience, often taking their email and send them website addresses; I would give them as much help as I could. This made me feel good and it also created a connection between me and that person. People inherently like to display knowledge over others; they like to be made to feel special.

a. If I am in the bar and I get talking to a guy who is a martial arts instructor, I will ask him to tell me about some decent training techniques.
b. If I am talking to a girl who works for a travel agency, I might ask her to advise me on a great place to go on holiday in the summer.
c. If I find out someone is a Financial Advisor, I may ask them where I should be investing my money.

Asking people to share their knowledge with you not only creates a connection with that person, but the help you receive may also help you in your life.

08-19-2007, 06:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
babygirl Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 6	How to create Rapport - Part 2 (continued from other post) 23. When I introduce people to people, I will show that I know something about that person. I will always put a positive spin on that person’s life. “John, this is Mikey… superstar DJ from around the town and a very accomplished ladies man” “This is Sammy… he’s training to be a cage fighter and someone you do not want to tangle with” “This is Carly… she is one of the best dressed women I have ever met”. Paying people positive complements in this way is very powerful. 24. I laugh loudly and freely. If someone says or does something very funny, I will not sit there and try to look cool by being all alpha, I will laugh out loud. I will let others know that I have found their joke funny. 25. Taking pictures 26. Mimicking their voice – This can be a very subtle, yet powerful generator of rapport. If a person speaks with an accent, I often copy that accent when I speak with them. I will often get **** tested for this, but I always persevere through to compliance. It helps to set a very light hearted and humorous undertone with the person involved. On a subconscious level, talking back to them with their voice also creates a strong connection with that person. I do this with guys and girls to great effect. 27. Mimicking their language/expressions – Everyone has a selection of words and expressions that they use over and over again. 28. Introduce people to people, or as the MM crowd would say “merge the sets.” When I am out, I am constantly introducing my friends to people I have just met and vice versa. ((I will usually add something like “She’s a good girl” or “He’s a good guys” (SEE PAGE XXXXXX)). You are actually connecting groups of people to each other and displaying that you are the guy who is 29. Taking an interest in people – I will ask questions and really listen to what they tell me. I try to have conversations with people that are a little deeper than the usual club/bar “chat.” I advocate building a social circle within a community, so I will see these people over and over again. When I next see that person, I will have a much stronger connection with them as I will know more about their lives. “How did your exams go?” “What was it like in Thailand?” “Did you win the football?” You are using common sense principles to get to find out more about people and their lives and you are creating strong rapport with them in the process. 30. I ask for help from others – I used to work at a recruitment business. When I was out and I got talking about what I did, I was often asked by potential job seekers advice on how to find employment. I would give them the benefit of my experience, often taking their email and send them website addresses; I would give them as much help as I could. This made me feel good and it also created a connection between me and that person. People inherently like to display knowledge over others; they like to be made to feel special. a. If I am in the bar and I get talking to a guy who is a martial arts instructor, I will ask him to tell me about some decent training techniques. b. If I am talking to a girl who works for a travel agency, I might ask her to advise me on a great place to go on holiday in the summer. c. If I find out someone is a Financial Advisor, I may ask them where I should be investing my money. Asking people to share their knowledge with you not only creates a connection with that person, but the help you receive may also help you in your life.