Dear Xuan,
I got your problem and I understand in your world how it looks like. To get off the emotion attachment is very hard. I seen my friend trying to do that for a year. She still react towards her ex and can't detach.
My advice is: Choose first.
If you want to be with him...
He will be the same for the next few years. You must be sure do you want to be with him or not. Even if he is a jerk, you can still love him. But loving him doesn't mean you allow him to take advantage of you. When you love him but draw clearly what you will not do and what you do, you can be strong.
When you are strong and you still love him, you will probably free from emotion attachment. He might probably feel bored with other woman and attracted by you.
If you don't want to be with him...
Tell him that you don't want to be with him first. When you tell him clearly about that, you will have freedom to reply and be friend with him. You will also not be emotion attached with him.
As a conclusion, It might be your needy character that allows him to have lots of girlfriend and he thinks you are ok with it. Whatever you need to do, do this first: Tell him clearly what you want and be strong on your decision! |