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Originally Posted by Dimitry  I was just having another "argument" inside my head. This one was regarding a few conversations I've had with a friend of Islam, terrorism, war(s) in the middle east etc. So inside my head I was having another one of these pontetial arguments I supposedly am having with this same friend (so my mind speaks both for myself and what it thinks my friend would counter with). Please note also that when I say argument, I'm mean debate style. As in "a discussion in which reasons are advanced for and against some proposition or proposal".
So I just realized something, whenever I have these so called arguments in me, it's mostly to do with convincing or debating/arguing with myself to try and gain a firm position on the subject matter. It usually involves a person in my mind that would oppose my position (either for the sake of an argument or because their position is different). So it has nothing to do with me vs them. It more has to do with me and how I feel regarding the subject at hand.
The next thing to explore is what to do with this realization. Do I stop these so called arguments, or are they the way we pave our thinking forward. Sort of debates that we have with ourselves.
Any ideas? |
Yeah.
People will come to you and say "stop doing this" - but this is impossible.
You don't argue inside your head because you want to. You don't choose to do it. So saying "well, you should stop because of X and Y" doesn't help much - there is no control lever. At least - not an obvious one.
But yes, you strike to the heart of a very deep issue.
Mental noise, chaos, division. It's not just distracting. It sets the tone for how you interact, because all the things you experience - and your responses to that - gets filtered through that chaos.
It can be quieted, and focus, clarity and cool can be developed directly.
Firstly though, you have to get 'underneath' it, so to speak.
Trying to argue it away won't work - I'm sure you've tried. It just makes it stronger, if anything.
Instead, if you want, you can investigate where it's coming from. That's the first step to detaching it from it's moorings, and gaining a new level of cool.
Up to you though, don't want to force this approach on anyone. Post back if you want me to talk you through it.