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Originally Posted by elai  I find complaining more of a social bonding thing than anything else. People probably don't really care about the complaints they make, but can make a group feel more close. |
elai -- exactly! Long time ago (way back in college) I took a workshop that helped me focus in life. And it helped me to stop complaining about things. And life felt very good after that. But after a while, I started complaining again; about small things. "omg, that assignment is too much" or "she didn't teach that properly" etc (what college students normally complain about).
But quickly I realized that by complaining (and listening to other people's complaints) that I was
connecting with the people around me. At that time I wanted to connect with my classmates -- so I started complaining just like them. I think in most groups (people in these groups probably haven't made a choice to live consciously), complaining is the easiest way to bond with others.
And I think that the funny thing is that people believe that complaining is normal thing in life -- a way to relieve stress and their frustration. And so most friendships are based around that: I'll listen to your complaints if you'll listen to my complaints.