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alexinspire · 08-17-2007, 05:48 PM

I would like to request you asking yourself these few questions before you decide how you want your relationship to be:

1. Is he someone you inspired to be with?

Some people actually have a checklist of how her man will be. It's not something bad because almost all my friends who are woman share with me their list too. Man are not computer or television. You can go out the street and look for a man who fits your checklist and buy him home like a computer.

Find a person who you are inspired to be with. If he is not that person, you are going to suffer being with the person who you are not inspired. He might just be another thing like your computer that fits your list at your age. When you get older and your list change, you'll throw him to the area called "outdated items" just like the way you throw the 10 years old computer.

2. Are you fitting him in the checklist?

Having a list is better than no list. But once you choose to be with a person. Throw the list away. Maybe you have a list of 20 unique points of your man. But when he just hit 18 of it, you just accept him and try to change him to meet 20.

You are going to be the most tiring person in this relationship. No ones want to change. When you change him and thinks he should be the one that do this and that, you will be upset and unhappy.

3. Giving love is more satisfying than wanting love

When you love someone with a pure heart, it will be a very easy and satisfying relationship. If you give and asking in return, you are not a person who love. You are just a trader who trade for love.

If you love him, why don't you just love him and enjoy being with him. Accept what he didn't do for you and make a request politely that he will do for you. If he don't do that, request again and still love him whatever the answer is.

Hope you will have a wonderful love relationship and cheers!

08-17-2007, 05:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
alexinspire Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 103	I would like to request you asking yourself these few questions before you decide how you want your relationship to be: 1. Is he someone you inspired to be with? Some people actually have a checklist of how her man will be. It's not something bad because almost all my friends who are woman share with me their list too. Man are not computer or television. You can go out the street and look for a man who fits your checklist and buy him home like a computer. Find a person who you are inspired to be with. If he is not that person, you are going to suffer being with the person who you are not inspired. He might just be another thing like your computer that fits your list at your age. When you get older and your list change, you'll throw him to the area called "outdated items" just like the way you throw the 10 years old computer. 2. Are you fitting him in the checklist? Having a list is better than no list. But once you choose to be with a person. Throw the list away. Maybe you have a list of 20 unique points of your man. But when he just hit 18 of it, you just accept him and try to change him to meet 20. You are going to be the most tiring person in this relationship. No ones want to change. When you change him and thinks he should be the one that do this and that, you will be upset and unhappy. 3. Giving love is more satisfying than wanting love When you love someone with a pure heart, it will be a very easy and satisfying relationship. If you give and asking in return, you are not a person who love. You are just a trader who trade for love. If you love him, why don't you just love him and enjoy being with him. Accept what he didn't do for you and make a request politely that he will do for you. If he don't do that, request again and still love him whatever the answer is. Hope you will have a wonderful love relationship and cheers!