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MM19 · 08-17-2007, 02:55 PM

Sounds like you have a lot going on. Quick question, and just the first idea that popped into my mind: Any chance your feelings of wanting to detach from the man you like is about you needing to forgive your dad? I know that must be hard, but if you see him, not as your dad, but some aspect of yourself, you might be able to see that his inability to be the sort of man someone would want to call dad must be hard for him too. Perhaps if you forgive him - for yourself as much as for him - you can remove this block that keeps you from manifesting what you want in relationships. I find, often, that those people who have not been able to resolve issues with their parents often cannot maintain relationships. I think that it would be a great shame for you and your dad if you did not or could not say "I love you regardless" before he dies. It would give you both some peace and might allow the healing you need to make this new relationship work! I do think that these signs popping up (his name appearing everywhere, that you feel it is unfinished, etc.) are telling you that you should contact him eventually, but that you need to heal something with your dad first. Does that make sense? Oh, MmeIntention, my light is shining to you. May you heal, love, and be brave! It is in you! You CAN do this! Keep up the good fight!

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MM19 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Iowa Posts: 42	Wow! Sounds like you have a lot going on. Quick question, and just the first idea that popped into my mind: Any chance your feelings of wanting to detach from the man you like is about you needing to forgive your dad? I know that must be hard, but if you see him, not as your dad, but some aspect of yourself, you might be able to see that his inability to be the sort of man someone would want to call dad must be hard for him too. Perhaps if you forgive him - for yourself as much as for him - you can remove this block that keeps you from manifesting what you want in relationships. I find, often, that those people who have not been able to resolve issues with their parents often cannot maintain relationships. I think that it would be a great shame for you and your dad if you did not or could not say "I love you regardless" before he dies. It would give you both some peace and might allow the healing you need to make this new relationship work! I do think that these signs popping up (his name appearing everywhere, that you feel it is unfinished, etc.) are telling you that you should contact him eventually, but that you need to heal something with your dad first. Does that make sense? Oh, MmeIntention, my light is shining to you. May you heal, love, and be brave! It is in you! You CAN do this! Keep up the good fight!