Originally Posted by James81
Again, that assumes that the baby is not wanted.
For anybody who has ever had a child, there is a HUGE difference between finding out you are about to have a child and actually holding your child in your arms the day he/she is born. It's a pretty amazing shift.
But understandably, that doesn't ALWAYS happen, it is possible that the parents change their mind once the baby arrives.
On the flip side, even IF they still don't want the child, it doesn't mean that nobody, nowhere will ever want it. Life is pretty amazing, and having a chance at living, complete with all the complexities of it is a pretty amazing experience. And it's all a matter of CHOICE.
I think that NOT being born is limiting choice moreso than actually being born.
Originally Posted by DerekB
People with bad/unloving parents can still lead perfectly happy lives. Also, if parents were that terrible why even keep the baby (as in adoption, not abortion)? If they don't love it its just a financial drain as far as they're concerned.
I'd much prefer being alive to being dust, especially since I'm very skeptical about an afterlife.
To both these answers, if we assume three basic scenarios that could happen after death (reborn, heaven, or nothing). Let me know if that is a problem for you, or if I have overlooked a scenario.
A child who has a horrible childhood because she is not wanted (assuming she isn't because the abortion would be an option)
Why would nothing, being reborn, or heaven be worse then a horrible childhood?
Of course, there is a chance that life is good and great and wonderful as well.
However, the chance of that happening vs the chance of a horrible childhood where the child is unwanted vs heaven, rebirth or nothing.. why is heaven, rebirth or nothing worse?
(and to be clear... nothing is nothing, so you cannot have regrets about anything... because you don't exist anymore. So there is nothing to feel about that, after it is done... it is done.)