Originally Posted by aelle
About men having an equal say in the matter: we can discuss what would be fair in a utopia, but in the real world, marital rape and forcible impregnation (fiddling with BC...) are frequent tools of abuse and control of men on women. Removing women's only option to walk out of it at this point is giving them the shorter end of the stick.
(If a woman gets pregnant when her partner doesn't want to, he is free to walk out. )
I completely disagree with the notion that everyone who engages in sex absolutely and without conditions accepts the risk of pregnancy. It is completely disconnected from reality.
Just because people behave like idiots doesn't excuse it. If a particularly dull bulb signs up for the Army's infantry, but didn't understand that he might be in some degree of danger, he can't just say "woops, never mind ship me back to LA please."