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AmyM · 08-16-2007, 12:23 PM

I'm well aware of the fact that I am in control of where I am going, but currently there are 2 issues: I don't really know where else I want to go right now, and life isn't really BAD right now, just blah. I'm in a maintain phase at the moment, a gestation period if you will. For example, I think I might need to move to another city, but I like my current job pretty well - frankly better than any job I've ever had. I've been there for 3 years, and next year they will be going public and it could really help me financially if I hang on here for 1 more year. I was in a long, exhausting, dysfunctional marriage - I moved out over 2 years ago, and got divorced a year and a half ago. I have been trying to cope with that major change; it feels akin to swimming up from the bottom of the ocean, trying to surface. I dated for a while, but now I'm sick of the meaninglessness of that, fed up with the men I was meeting, and not really ready to handle the "something significant" that I desire anyway.

So right now, there is almost no movement. At least not on a significant level. I am making a real effort for the first time in my life to control what I eat and drink, to improve my health, but frankly I find this boring and tedious so there's not really any particular joy emanating from that feeling of control.

How do you deal with these periods of stasis? Where your life is gestating and you feel swollen and cranky and immobile, but don't want to abort the baby?

08-16-2007, 12:23 PM	#12 (permalink)
AmyM Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 3	Not bad, just blah I'm well aware of the fact that I am in control of where I am going, but currently there are 2 issues: I don't really know where else I want to go right now, and life isn't really BAD right now, just blah. I'm in a maintain phase at the moment, a gestation period if you will. For example, I think I might need to move to another city, but I like my current job pretty well - frankly better than any job I've ever had. I've been there for 3 years, and next year they will be going public and it could really help me financially if I hang on here for 1 more year. I was in a long, exhausting, dysfunctional marriage - I moved out over 2 years ago, and got divorced a year and a half ago. I have been trying to cope with that major change; it feels akin to swimming up from the bottom of the ocean, trying to surface. I dated for a while, but now I'm sick of the meaninglessness of that, fed up with the men I was meeting, and not really ready to handle the "something significant" that I desire anyway. So right now, there is almost no movement. At least not on a significant level. I am making a real effort for the first time in my life to control what I eat and drink, to improve my health, but frankly I find this boring and tedious so there's not really any particular joy emanating from that feeling of control. How do you deal with these periods of stasis? Where your life is gestating and you feel swollen and cranky and immobile, but don't want to abort the baby?