I like the idea of rejecting victimhood. It's just that it seems in this society, if you don't "STAND UP and DEFEND YOURSELF" you're seen as the victim. Or at least I feel that way sometimes.
I like what Shamou said about verbalizing your anger to blow it off. That seems to make sense in certain circumstances.
Usually I'm a very laid back person. I never seem to get all that upset about small things like the things I mentioned in the OP. But recently, I surprised myself by letting myself get very pissed over a small thing involving another mother at my daughter's preschool.
Maybe because I'm very emotional about my daughter, more so than other things in my life, I got upset. What's done is done--so there's probably no point in bringing up how "hurt" and "upset" I am--except to make her feel bad and guilty for what she did. And I suppose there's no point in that. |