Forgiveness isn't really an act; it's a state of mind. It's something that happens naturally when you learn to love people for who they are and when you learn to accept your own imperfections. It also involves outright rejection of victimhood. In other words, whether or not someone wronged you is entirely a matter of your own judgement. That means someone can't wrong you unless you allow them. Their actions might reflect poor judgement, but that can be fixed. Forgiveness tends to come naturally when you see the "wrong" that was committed as being a human failing of the offender in addition to choosing to reject the status of being a victim of that wrong. It also involves an attitude of always making the best of out whatever hand you're dealt.
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A truly open mind will seriously consider all points of view, even those with which it strongly disagrees for there may be a grain of truth in even the most ridiculous of opinions.
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