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Originally Posted by Alvin  I have the sick feeling that he's stuck in a place where he wants to have a dependent relationship...it's occurred to me that people don't just seek out relationships with the characters they like, but also the dynamics of the relationships they like. |
I have a friend whose girlfriend is completely controlling. She doesn't allow him to do anything -- hang out solo with his friends, persue jobs in his preferred career (culinary arts), play video games. All of his friends hate her guts. Yet he refuses to do anything about it. Thus, he's lost contact with a lot of his friends. He even dropped out of college to move with her 200 miles away, where she decided she'd do grad school while he worked odd jobs at crappy restaurants to pay the rent. (She won't let him take any of the good restaurant jobs he's offered.)
My boyfriend and I psychoanalyze our friends shamelessly. We figure it has something to do with how controlling his mom was, and how he doesn't want to be (or doesn't know how to be) in an independent relationship. Which is too bad, because we both would have liked to keep him as a friend. Unfortunately, his girlfriend prevents that. And ultimately, I guess, it's his choice.