I'm not sure if this is *exactly* what you're talking about... but I remember acknowledging a while back that I got "crushes" on certain performers when I saw them live...
Ellis Paul,
Dar Williams,
Paul Simon...
I recognized that I felt a deep connection to them - it felt like we should be friends! If only they would let me introduce myself, and we could go out for chai and a chat!
I was with a friend when I saw
Laurie Lewis, and had that same feeling, and saw it for what it was: These performers are doing exactly what they were put on earth to do. They are living fully from their spirits - especially when performing - and it's that connection to source that was attractive to me, not the actual person. I had them confused! Now, when I feel that for someone, I know it's not that person -- and I don't have to look up their birth dates, look for pictures in google images, etc. I know it's that deep connection that I'm feeling, because I'm seeing it expressed. Since I've looked for ways to connect to source in that way myself, I still feel that "thrill" for certain people, but I look at it differently - now it's like a secret we share.
When I've gotten crushes and obsessions otherwise, it's normally when I'm feeling there's something missing in my own life... my mind being filled with thoughts of that person takes the place of my feeling that emptiness. I don't think it's the crushes that bring the empty feeling. It's been a LONG time since I've felt that! Ever since I've been living my purpose as best as I'm able. I do remember just telling other people about my crushes brought relief... it's like I couldn't just keep it in my head on spin cycle that way -- and it gave us something to laugh about.
Wishing you peace ~