If it is a TV star or someone else that is unattainable:
You should focus on the fact that you indeed don't know a thing about that person. This lack of information leaves a gap that you fill with idealisations which lead to your obsession. The real person probably is a lot different than you imagine.
My solution is simple: stop thinking about them, delete all pictures, stories, whatever you have and try to find someone real.
If it's someone you actually have a chance of meeting, try to find out more by interacting with that person instead of just dreaming about it. Otherwise do what jsot said. Just don't stay in that position where you have a crush without acting on it.
As to the feeling of loss: I think this has to do with you living in the past more than in your present. Another reason might be that you aren't creating a future in which you actually find someone special. |