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Trina · 11-14-2006, 04:50 PM

I don't want to have children either, but for very different reasons. I am already an adult, and have been for years, and have a certain vision for my life that just doesn't include kids. The thought of having children has crossed my mind on occasion, and my husband and I even tried to get pregnant for a few years with no luck. That has now passed and I am very content with our lives together. I know that we would be good parents, and the thought of having children doesn't scare me (if we did end up pregnant it would be a happy thing) but having children just isn't a priority for us. It sounds so selfish, and I guess it is, but neither of us feel the need to have children to complete our lives. We are content with it being just the two of us and can picture living the rest of our lives without kids and still fulfilling. Don't get me wrong, we haven't ruled children our completely, but right now it's just not something we want or are planning for the future.

Maybe, in the future, when we are better suited to take care of a child (right now my husband is still in school with less than a year to go, not ideal circumstances for having children) we will re-evaluate. I would feel like we were doing any children a huge disservice bringing them into the world in our tiny apartment with no money and so many other stressors in our lives right now. I want to bring a child into the world after Adam already has his degree and we have a place carved out already just for them, not in a situation where we have to make room and struggle to give them what they need. I know that you can never be 100% prepared for a new baby, but I know we could be a LOT more prepared than we are.

Also, I have been watching my nieces and nephews almost full time for a few years now. I went from having no children to essentially having three partly grown ones overnight. I have been doing everything for them... from cooking and cleaning, discipline, homework after school, kissing their owies, going to parent teacher conferences, doing laundry, taking care of them when they are sick... everything. They are as close to having my own children as you can get without actually having your own children. I have cherished all of my time with them, and also been very glad I could eventually give them back when they were bouncing off the walls or puking their guts out. I have gotten a taste of parenthood and while I know it is something that I would get so much joy from having my own children, I also know it is something I don't have to have to find joy. If that makes sense.

Anyway, now I am just rambling. LOL. People tell me all the time that Adam and I *need* to have kids because we would be great parents, and after 5 years of marriage I am tired of the "So when are you going to start a family?" questions (We ARE a family... lol), but I am still not sold. Haha.

11-14-2006, 04:50 PM	#11 (permalink)
Trina Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: The most Utarded place on the planet. Posts: 160	I don't want to have children either, but for very different reasons. I am already an adult, and have been for years, and have a certain vision for my life that just doesn't include kids. The thought of having children has crossed my mind on occasion, and my husband and I even tried to get pregnant for a few years with no luck. That has now passed and I am very content with our lives together. I know that we would be good parents, and the thought of having children doesn't scare me (if we did end up pregnant it would be a happy thing) but having children just isn't a priority for us. It sounds so selfish, and I guess it is, but neither of us feel the need to have children to complete our lives. We are content with it being just the two of us and can picture living the rest of our lives without kids and still fulfilling. Don't get me wrong, we haven't ruled children our completely, but right now it's just not something we want or are planning for the future. Maybe, in the future, when we are better suited to take care of a child (right now my husband is still in school with less than a year to go, not ideal circumstances for having children) we will re-evaluate. I would feel like we were doing any children a huge disservice bringing them into the world in our tiny apartment with no money and so many other stressors in our lives right now. I want to bring a child into the world after Adam already has his degree and we have a place carved out already just for them, not in a situation where we have to make room and struggle to give them what they need. I know that you can never be 100% prepared for a new baby, but I know we could be a LOT more prepared than we are. Also, I have been watching my nieces and nephews almost full time for a few years now. I went from having no children to essentially having three partly grown ones overnight. I have been doing everything for them... from cooking and cleaning, discipline, homework after school, kissing their owies, going to parent teacher conferences, doing laundry, taking care of them when they are sick... everything. They are as close to having my own children as you can get without actually having your own children. I have cherished all of my time with them, and also been very glad I could eventually give them back when they were bouncing off the walls or puking their guts out. I have gotten a taste of parenthood and while I know it is something that I would get so much joy from having my own children, I also know it is something I don't have to have to find joy. If that makes sense. Anyway, now I am just rambling. LOL. People tell me all the time that Adam and I need to have kids because we would be great parents, and after 5 years of marriage I am tired of the "So when are you going to start a family?" questions (We ARE a family... lol), but I am still not sold. Haha. __________________ ~ Trina ~ Contrary to Reality "Yes, the long war on Christianity. I pray that one day we may live in an America where Christians can worship freely! In broad daylight! Openly wearing the symbols of their religion…. perhaps around their necks? And maybe — dare I dream it? — maybe one day there can be an openly Christian President. Or, perhaps, 43 of them. Consecutively." — Jon Stewart Last edited by Trina; 11-19-2006 at 09:43 AM.