My house goes untouched from one week to the next when the maid service visits, but I keep my bedroom neat and clean. It's my hiding place that I retreat to when I need to get away. It's done in pastel colors and sparsely furnished. My books are there, my music is there, I keep candles handy. And everyone knows when I'm in there, do not disturb.
So if you can carve out a little space just for yourself and keep it to your liking so that it's a place where you can escape to and be comfortable, that may solve your problem.
And when you go there, don't have mental pictures of the other rooms that may be a bit messy running through your head
