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Originally Posted by Dating Specialist  Alvin, could your friend also be indulging in his girlfriend's independence too much? I may not be right, but I feel that someone can only become too dependant on another if they are given this chance to. Perhaps there are some secondary benefits he derives by being the main and sole provider for all her needs. |
I agree, I think it has a lot to do with secondary gain; something about her being dependent on him satisfies a need of his at some level. The only question is how to get him to shift from an unhealthy relationship to a healthy one.
He's told me he's dating someone else who has her stuff more together, but lately I've seen him with the same old girl, so I really have no idea what's going on
this is not the first toxic relationship I've seen him with and sometimes I wonder what I could possibly do for him at all.