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Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb  I'm not  Joke. I don't enjoy it though. Somehow I think there's a way of being positive about negative things you say. Rep doesn't mean much but a neg rep kinda feels like a rebuke, which doesn't feel like a nice way of getting a message across. |
My initial reaction to someone saying something like that is, "what are we, eight?"
"Nice" is overrated. Sometimes you need people to sink their teeth in you in order to grow-and even if you don't deserve it it's an opportunity to examine and strengthen yourself.
It's not really anyone else's call to make, whether you need that or you don't, but as this is a public, growth oriented forum I think it serves a very important purpose. If we made this a smaller, more focused community it would probably be wise to disable the feature, but in the mixing pot that exists now I'd say anything that isn't an outright personal attack or vulgar beyond reason should be allowed.
I can say, in my own experience, that when I've felt great there's often been no drive to examine myself. It's when I get a boot to the face that I pause and think about things, and explore those feelings I'd previously ignored. I'm getting better about being proactive with that but I'd be lying through my teeth if I said the 'bad' feelings those instances invoked weren't instrumental in my progress.