[bigfoot]

Went out to lunch with girl I met at coffee shop last weekend. Very hard to get a read on her. Pretty deadpan personality. Date seemed to go fairly well though.

I had planned to grab drinks with her tonight after work but ended up canceling. Had work to do and had promised another friend I'd hang out with him....but if I'm being totally honest the real reason was that I felt like it would be better to give her some time to marinate. Feel like I have been coming on a little too strong lately and need to pull back more. She seemed a little pissed I canceled so this may backfire on me...only time will tell.

Planning on going out to bars/clubs tonight with a friend. About to listen to a tape from a Tony Robbins audiocassette program I bought on ebay for $15 a few weeks ago. Thought I would record my notes here. This tape program is amazing. Way better than his books because information is actually structured in a logical way.

Day 10 Notes (How to Take Control of Your Life):

-go over process for changing beliefs
-quick review of program:
-personal power is power to change life
-pp=ability to take action consistently in spite of fears/challenges
-ultimate success formula:
1.) take action
2.) notice whether its creating desired result
3.) change action
-pain and pleasure drive everything we do
-associations to pain/pleasure govern our destiny
-anything unique that happens in extreme emotional state gets linked
-what we really want in life are feelings (not people, things)
-manage states through:
1.) physical body
2.) controlling mental focus
-global beliefs govern what we notice/are willing to focus on

-changing beliefs:
-3 keys to neuroassociative conditioning:
1.) get leverage = something must change
2.) interrupt old pattern of association
3.) create new association
-steps to changing beliefs:
1.) identify controlling beliefs that are limiting your life the most
2.) link enough pain to present limiting beliefs that brain says stop pattern
3.) create new set of empowering beliefs to replace old beliefs
-a good core belief is a statement that empowers you
-changing your beliefs is as easy as changing files on a computer
-...and if you think about it, that would be hard to do too if didnt know how
-a belief I use: "the past does not equal the future"
-another belief I use: "there is always a way"

Assignment: Identify 2 limiting beliefs.
1.) Women don't like me
2.) I'll never be able to change myself

-christmas carol: example of changing person doesnt want to change
-scrooge didn't want to change
-but changed over 1 night
-how did ghosts do it?
1.) got leverage = experience massive pain to present beliefs
a.) link pain in past to beliefs
b.) link pain in present
c.) link pain in future
2.) Replaced his old belief with new belief (giving = pleasure)

Doing dickens pattern:
New Beliefs:
1.) Enough women will like me that it is worth putting myself out there
2.) Where there is a will there is a way

Paragraph on how these beliefs will empower me (focus on belief about women):
New belief will motivate me to keep meeting people. Keep learning who I am/am not compatible with. Teach me the mistakes to avoid so that when I meet girls I really like I get to be with them long term as opposed to blowing it early on. Lead to new adventures, excitement. Enable me to make new friends. Never have to feel lonely again. Have CONTROL over my dating life for the first time in my life. NOT having to feel like I have to wait around for something to magically happen in order to meet someone that I really like. Get to date the women I am most attracted to. Get to date the women I used to only dream about dating. Get to feel liberated. Not walking around wondering what other people think of me. Just quietly accepting that some people will like me and some wont for whatever reasons. Expecting that and understanding that without it stopping me. Freedom. Personal freedom.