Well, there's a lot to think about! Thanks for the update (and may I say - jealous that you saw JC...even if he was wearing a yellow suit??).
What I will say to the manifestation question is that I think we each have our hands full manifesting for ourselves, working on ourselves. The main problem with attachment is that it implies you will be devastated if things don't work out as you hope. And that brings all sorts of negative energy into the equation which in turn hinders manifestation. The thought that kicks you out of heaven...when you are sitting in your chair perfectly content, then the thought pops up...I would be more comfortable with a pillow (from the book below). I don't think it's wrong to want good things (healing and breakthroughs) for other people. In the midst of my own relationship drama, I wanted the same things. You could almost be repeating the exact things I said really.
I don't see a problem intending good things for your ex as well as yourself, but your full energy should be focused on you. If you will trust me, stranger to you that I am, then I think you will realize in the end that
you and everyone in your life benefit the most when you focus on yourself and the fabulous intentions you listed:
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peace of mind, confidence in my worth as a woman and a partner, and that my home, studies, and friendships are blossoming!
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The greatest moments in my relationship now come as beautiful surprises as I look to myself and stay in my own business. When I catch myself keeping tabs on him or wondering why he does certain things or wishing him away by hoping he'll change I find myself sinking back into that same drama filled, anxiety ridden state that totally demolished our relationship previously. I do currently do affirmations that include the people in my life and my wish for their love, peace and happiness for the greatest good of all, but I don't attach my own peace and happiness to the outcome.
The breakthrough for me came when I was intending good things for him EVEN IF THAT MEANT THEY CAME BY HIM BEING WITH SOMEONE ELSE.
If I may, please read I Need Your Love - Is That True by Byron Katie. It really gave me a great perspective. Gem #1 that I took from it: If he's in his business and your in his business then who is looking after your business?
Hmmm, well I hope that I was able to explain my view a little better. I would be happy to try and clear it up if needed. Ultimately you need to find what feels right to you, but this process is what has worked for me.