Originally Posted by Sponge
Thanks AP I will try this with my nanny, but she is just an example. I just seem to always focus on the things that annoy me about people. I have previously tried something similar, wrote lists on all the things I like about friends, and for a short time felt better but don't think anything externally really changed. Maybe because it wasn't what I was really feeling. Eventually things just returned to normal. Am thinking of reading zero limits (as per pianoperformer's post) but having just read Busting loose feel like it's yet ANOTHER book. I quite liked the feeling of none of this really matters as it's all just an illusion, maybe I should re-read and implement that, but not sure if it 100% resonated. Am just getting fed up of trying to 'get' everything, nothing seems to just fall into place. I would really like to attract some other people into my life, but think I'm probably vibrating lack in this area.
Are you saying it only works for so long? That even tho you read a list of the good in people, you still
look at the bad? Or that you stop reading the list, and go back to your old thaughts?
What I would try is... When you find yourself thinking negatitavily about anyone... Stop, tell yourself this isnt who I choose to be... Think something positive about them, then think about something else, something happy. Like a vacation or something. Dont expect to change overnight. Expect to do this a million times everyday for the first week. Keep with it. Old way can be hard to change.
One more thing. Some people are not good people. They might be toxic, or downright evil. Ive learned to trust that little voice. Dont try to override it all the time.