Thanks AP I will try this with my nanny, but she is just an example. I just seem to always focus on the things that annoy me about people. I have previously tried something similar, wrote lists on all the things I like about friends, and for a short time felt better but don't think anything externally really changed. Maybe because it wasn't what I was really feeling. Eventually things just returned to normal. Am thinking of reading zero limits (as per pianoperformer's post) but having just read Busting loose feel like it's yet ANOTHER book. I quite liked the feeling of none of this really matters as it's all just an illusion, maybe I should re-read and implement that, but not sure if it 100% resonated. Am just getting fed up of trying to 'get' everything, nothing seems to just fall into place. I would really like to attract some other people into my life, but think I'm probably vibrating lack in this area.