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Old 10-19-2011, 09:46 AM   #209 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by aelle View Post
Oh, of course! People can be flawed, and this flaw can just happen to fit a gender stereotype. What I see as problematic is the systemic judgement (do we look for uselessness in our male partners? Do they try to interpret or dismiss what we say as nagging or control?) Also, I'm bothered by the helplessness in this trope: "Oh, men! (sigh!) You know how they are! (eyeroll) Completely useless! (throw up your hands in the air) Useless useless! But what are you going to to about it, that's how they are, boys will be boys (sigh)..."

Nope. I expect better.
Yes, yes. Thankyou so much for bringing me back to reality on this.
I really dislike this about some women, and I can see how many men find them confounding when they do this.

It's kinda cowardly really. They could just make the commitment to become better at communicating or learning to be more assertive, but the payoffs for being this way are that they get all this sympathy and female comeraderie.

I really don't like it at all.

I'm SO glad I won't be working there much longer.

Last edited by elucidate; 10-19-2011 at 09:51 AM.
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