Originally Posted by aelle
I wonder if it's one of these tropes that we tend to repeat about our partners whether they're true or not, just because it gives a ready-made excuse to b<3tch about them without having to think too hard. Like that, we women can all complain about how useless men are and all be miserable together and not give a thought to whether it's true and whether we want to do something about it. I like what this lady has to say about it: It's not about the mayonnaise: stop using tired tropes when complaining about your partner | Offbeat Bride
I'm sure it's possible. Thanks for pointing that out to me aelle. Sometimes we can get brainwashed by what people say if they say it often enough, and forget there are two sides to the story, and women like to ♥♥♥♥♥ a lot, especially about men.
And it goes both ways as well. Men love to ♥♥♥♥♥ about us being so nagging all the time, when half the time we are trying to get them to pay attention and help us out, but they choose to see it as nagging them by annoying them with talking about stuff that needs to be done. Then again, I remember my mother annoying the crap out of me with the way she would talk.
I guess it can come down to communication issues at the end of the day, on both sides. men interpreting us wrong and we interpret them wrong as well.
Then again, some women are really controlling, and some men can be that way too.
I hear it at work a lot, though it is always presented as the woman being the victim of an insensitive male and how devoted she is and sacrificing, and after a while you get drawn into her web of feeling emotionally like she is being taken advantage of...when really it's more like she probably just doesn't say no often enough to unreasonable demands, and instead of learning to become more assertive, she instead prefers to get attention from workmates who feel sorry for her and re-affirm how useless men are.
I try really hard to stay out of it...which is probably why they think I'm odd. I don't get involved in their lives but they really do ♥♥♥♥♥ a lot about their men there...only one woman doesn't. Two in particular are always coming in complaining about some slight that has been done to them by people or by husband, but in subtle ways as though they don't really mind.
Gives them something to talk about. Thanks for the reminder...I was starting to feel like an alien there, but really I'm doing the right thing by not getting involved.