Originally Posted by elucidate
From a female perspective, you are rare. There are so many guys who have had mothers who do everything for them, that they don't even do these basic things...and are therefore a nightmare to have as a partner...if you have feminist tendencies (like I do). I actually place the responsability on mothers to stop doing everything for their sons and treating them like little emperors and start encouraging self-reliance from a young age, so they are 'trained'for when they become adults and enter into real relationships with women.
Whole generations of boys growing into supposed adults but expecting their girlfriends to do all the basics. I'd rather be single.
You know, I hear that a lot, but I'd be hard pressed to point to any guy over 18 in my life who's actually like that. I know plenty who don't like to do it or don't want to do it, but none that can't actually heat a can of beans or wash their laundry. Did these guys go straight from living with their mother to living with their girlfriends?
Originally Posted by russianrocket
I don't think I've met a single women who can do the "guy" things around the house, and even more, a women who actually would do them.
So, you girls can do the dishes and the laundry and the cleaning, and we'll fix stuff, go on top of the roof to replace a shingle, go up into the nasty attic to remove the rat, take out the trash, and mow the lawn in the 100 degree summer heat. You don't want us doing the laundry or dishes or cleaning. We will either do it wrong, and mess stuff up, or do it half assed. Just give it up already lol.
True to an extent, it's a two-way street. That said, fewer and fewer guys
know how to use tools and be handy around a house, too. My partner is very handy and I didn't realize until I moved in with him how little I, and everyone I had lived with until then, knew (I'm not talking basic stuff like changing a lightbulb or unclogging the toilet though, not being able to do that is at the same level of ridiculousness as not knowing how to microwave leftovers or turn on the washing machine. Stuff that's a bit more involved, like fixing / building furniture from scratch or redoing the roof or the electrical wiring.)
Not that I had never tried to learn, but it is a lot more difficult when you have to follow a written tutorial and are missing half the tools you need, than if you have a parent to walk you through it and a well-equipped workshop.
By the way, what's the deal with taking out the trash being a gendered chore?? I've never heard of that except in the US.