Originally Posted by elucidate
From a female perspective, you are rare. There are so many guys who have had mothers who do everything for them, that they don't even do these basic things...and are therefore nightmare to have as a partner...if you have feminist tendencies (like I do). I actually place the responsability on mothers to stop doing everything for their sons and treating them like little emperors and start encouraging self-reliance from a young age, so they are 'trained'for when they become adults and enter into real relationships with women.
Whole generations of boys growing into supposed adults but expecting their girlfriends to do all the basics. I'd rather be single.
Yup. I totally agree. Whenever my husband can't do something, I tend to treat him like a child (which he hates
) but seriously if you can't do some basic household chore by the time you're a grown man there's something seriously wrong.
I don't even deliberately treat him like a child...I'm just...used to dealing with kids and their "I don't know how to fold clothes/turn on the washing machine/stack the dishwasher" that when he comes out with something like that, he gets the same sort of response from me (that usually revolves around using a bit of common sense, because it ain't brain surgery!!).
Now to be fair, I probably don't put enough onus on any of my kids to help out around the house (cause I don't like nagging) but the boys both like to cook (and will voluntarily make biscuits and stuff like that for fun), and can use a vacuum, and do other basic stuff.
But yeah, the older they get, the more I expect them to be able to do... because it's not difficult. No one really taught me how to clean, I just figured it out.