Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot
To be honest, I can see other reasons why the "staying with parents" model doesn't work well in the US, compared to the "moving out" model.
The reason is that your parents don't even stay together. Just browsing the threads, I see all the time Americans mentioning casually and incidentally that they had had a divorce, or that their parents had had a divorce. So generally it seems that divorce is very prevalent in the US.
Logistically speaking, it makes the "staying with parents" model much less viable. I mean - I could either reside with Mum, or Dad, but not both, if they are physically in different locations. Then there are other complications, like how I feel about Mum's new partner or Dad's other woman - and how they would feel about me.
Yes, this is definitely a very valid point. We have a very high divorce rate and I'm sure that does make a big difference in staying with parents.
I actually think that the indepence we really try to teach our children probably has a lot to do with the divorce rate. People learn that they are completely able to care for and be dependent on themselves financially, emotionally, etc., therefore it's much easier to split a marriage when things aren't going according to personal preference. Of course that isn't the only factor, but I do believe it is a big one. There are probably more happily divorced people around here than happily married. LOL.
I find absolutely nothing wrong with it, either. I don't feel like a person should be expected to stay in an unhappy, unhealthy situation full of abuse or whatever it is that creates issues in the marriage that cannot be resolved. No one should be forced to live unhappily and without love.