Relationships Category Archive

Open Relationships and Friendship

Sunday, August 25th, 2013

One thing that surprised me about getting into open relationships for the past several years is that my relationships with my male friends improved markedly as well. When I was in an exclusive mono relationship for 15 years, I got into the habit of limiting how I shared intimacy. Physical and emotional intimacy were restricted […]

Relationship Abundance – Video

Monday, August 19th, 2013

Here’s the full video of my talk on Relationship Abundance from last year’s Morten Hake Summit in Oslo, Norway. Topics covered include: cultivating a positive relationship with reality as a whole (including receiving the financial support you desire) overcoming relationship neediness how to invite and enjoy relationship abundance being transparent and authentic in your relationship […]

Your Beautiful Personality

Wednesday, July 17th, 2013

This is a follow-up to the recently posted article “Do Your Goals Conflict with Your Personality?”┬áIn that article I shared how understanding the core aspects of your personality can help you set better goals and help you achieve your goals more easily. In the 2+ weeks since I shared that article, I’ve spent a lot […]

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

On my Google+ page, I recently shared the following: To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches. It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for […]

How Obedient Are You?

Tuesday, May 28th, 2013

In the early 1960s, Yale professor Stanley Milgram conducted a serious of famous psychological experiments to measure people’s obedience to authority. A volunteer was instructed by an experimenter to help administer a simple test to a subject in another room. Cards were drawn to determine which of two “volunteers” would play each role, but the […]

Let the Old World Collapse

Monday, April 8th, 2013

I frequently receive emails from people contemplating major career and lifestyle transitions. Their stories have many variations, but they typically have these elements in common: dissatisfaction with their current work or lifestyle (or lack of meaningful work) feeling that they’re on the wrong path (possibly for years) feeling of being on a treadmill that goes […]

Three-Person Relationships

Thursday, February 28th, 2013

For the past few years I’ve enjoyed being in an open relationship. This has been a wonderful path of growth to explore. Sure it subjects you to some extra criticism, but most of that gets out of the way in the first day or two, so in the long run it’s negligible. The rewards of […]

December 2012 Updates

Monday, December 31st, 2012

This year is coming to a close, so I’d like to share some updates about what’s been going on with respect to the blog, my life, and upcoming plans for 2013. 2013 Focus – Product Development At the end of each year, I like to pick a focus for the upcoming year. For 2013 I’ve […]

How to Invite Cuddling Without Inviting Sex

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

I’ve been getting lots of inquisitive feedback regarding my recent article on open relationships, especially with respect to the section on deeper friendships. One question that a few women asked me essentially boils down to this: I really love cuddling, but I have a hard time inviting guys to cuddle with me because they might […]

Plodding and Bursting

Monday, October 29th, 2012

Plodding and bursting are two different strategies for getting things done. Understanding these two modes will help you in two ways. First, you’ll be able to identify your own default mode, so you can better take advantage of it. And second, you’ll be able to understand others who prefer your non-dominant mode, so you can […]