Relationships Category Archive

How Obedient Are You?

Tuesday, May 28th, 2013

In the early 1960s, Yale professor Stanley Milgram conducted a serious of famous psychological experiments to measure people’s obedience to authority. A volunteer was instructed by an experimenter to help administer a simple test to a subject in another room. Cards were drawn to determine which of two “volunteers” would play each role, but the […]

Let the Old World Collapse

Monday, April 8th, 2013

I frequently receive emails from people contemplating major career and lifestyle transitions. Their stories have many variations, but they typically have these elements in common: dissatisfaction with their current work or lifestyle (or lack of meaningful work) feeling that they’re on the wrong path (possibly for years) feeling of being on a treadmill that goes […]

Three-Person Relationships

Thursday, February 28th, 2013

For the past few years I’ve enjoyed being in an open relationship. This has been a wonderful path of growth to explore. Sure it subjects you to some extra criticism, but most of that gets out of the way in the first day or two, so in the long run it’s negligible. The rewards of […]

December 2012 Updates

Monday, December 31st, 2012

This year is coming to a close, so I’d like to share some updates about what’s been going on with respect to the blog, my life, and upcoming plans for 2013. 2013 Focus – Product Development At the end of each year, I like to pick a focus for the upcoming year. For 2013 I’ve […]

How to Invite Cuddling Without Inviting Sex

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

I’ve been getting lots of inquisitive feedback regarding my recent article on open relationships, especially with respect to the section on deeper friendships. One question that a few women asked me essentially boils down to this: I really love cuddling, but I have a hard time inviting guys to cuddle with me because they might […]

Plodding and Bursting

Monday, October 29th, 2012

Plodding and bursting are two different strategies for getting things done. Understanding these two modes will help you in two ways. First, you’ll be able to identify your own default mode, so you can better take advantage of it. And second, you’ll be able to understand others who prefer your non-dominant mode, so you can […]

Should You Tell Your Mono Partner About Your Interest in Open Relationships?

Thursday, October 25th, 2012

What if you’re already in a monogamous relationship now, and you feel leanings towards a more open relationship experience? Should you discuss this with your current partner or keep it to yourself? What if you aren’t 100% sure about your feelings yet? Should you wait until you’re certain? First off, there are no shoulds. You’re […]

How to Release Neediness

Monday, October 8th, 2012

Learn to notice and appreciate the hidden abundance obscured by scarcity and lack, and more abundance will flow to you. Although I enjoy some very nice abundance in my life today (time freedom, work I love, travel, wonderful friends, amazing kids), I don’t need anything in particular to feel rich. As I see it, I […]

Dealing With Others’ Insecurities

Monday, September 24th, 2012

How can you effectively deal with other people’s insecurities? What if you and your partner decide to explore open relationships, but when the opportunity to act on this arises, your partner goes a bit kittywompus and becomes extra clingy and uncertain about it? Or maybe you can tell they aren’t feeling so good about it […]

Judging vs. Creating

Thursday, August 30th, 2012

I recently asked some people to explain the difference between being judgmental and being selective. I received dozens of different answers. Some people said that being selective is milder, more logical, less emotional, or more practical than being judgmental. Others felt they were just different words to describe the same thing. And still others had […]