Relationships Category Archive

D/s Play

Saturday, October 5th, 2013

Many of us live in a repressed world. We don’t feel safe enough to share our truest, deepest desires with each other. We keep certain fantasies strictly to ourselves, hiding them where no one else is allowed to look. These desires are not allowed into the light — they’re our secret shame, our darkness denied. […]

How to Meet Your Needs Without Being Needy

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

On the one hand, we’re taught that we have certain needs as human beings, including survival needs (food, water, shelter, etc), emotional needs (belongingness, love), self esteem needs, etc. Whether or not all of these concepts qualify as true needs is debatable. The idea of there being a clear hierarchy of needs, such as Maslow’s, […]

Lifestyle Connect – Sep 28 in Bucharest, Romania

Sunday, September 22nd, 2013

Here’s a pleasant surprise for anyone in or near Bucharest, Romania this Saturday. I’ve been in Europe for about 3.5 weeks now, most of it spent in Bucharest. While I’ve been here, enjoying a whirlwind of amazing social connections and new experiences, I saw that there was some serious demand for a live personal growth […]

Feedback on the Last Post

Monday, September 16th, 2013

Let me share some of the feedback I received about my last blog post and the new web page it links to regarding Meeting in Person. In those texts I shared in great detail what types of connections I’d like to explore with men and women who want to meet up face to face. I […]

Meeting in Person

Saturday, September 14th, 2013

This is a personal follow-up to my last article about Enjoying Rich and Abundant Relationships. Basically I took that article and went even further with it, which led to a decision to undertake a significant recalibration of my social and relationship life, starting now. This decision was partly inspired by my time in Europe (I’ve […]

Enjoying Rich and Abundant Relationships

Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

How abundant can your relationship life become? Are there any real limits to what you can experience and enjoy with willing partners? In this article I’ll share some candid thoughts about creating more depth in open relationships, including what I’m interested in exploring next. I really appreciate this exploration of open relationships that I’ve been […]

Open Relationships and Friendship

Sunday, August 25th, 2013

One thing that surprised me about getting into open relationships for the past several years is that my relationships with my male friends improved markedly as well. When I was in an exclusive mono relationship for 15 years, I got into the habit of limiting how I shared intimacy. Physical and emotional intimacy were restricted […]

Relationship Abundance – Video

Monday, August 19th, 2013

Here’s the full video of my talk on Relationship Abundance from last year’s Morten Hake Summit in Oslo, Norway. Topics covered include: cultivating a positive relationship with reality as a whole (including receiving the financial support you desire) overcoming relationship neediness how to invite and enjoy relationship abundance being transparent and authentic in your relationship […]

Your Beautiful Personality

Wednesday, July 17th, 2013

This is a follow-up to the recently posted article “Do Your Goals Conflict with Your Personality?”┬áIn that article I shared how understanding the core aspects of your personality can help you set better goals and help you achieve your goals more easily. In the 2+ weeks since I shared that article, I’ve spent a lot […]

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

On my Google+ page, I recently shared the following: To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches. It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for […]