Relationships Category Archive

Resting in Discomfort

Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

At Rich Litvin’s coaching workshop that I attended earlier this month (partly to speak there and partly to learn), Rich talked about how he handles coaching situations where he doesn’t know what to say next. He said that when he doesn’t know what to say to a client, he pauses and says nothing. Rich pointed […]

Coaching Coming Together – Recap

Sunday, December 15th, 2013

Here’s a recap of the audio recording project I shared in Coaches Coming Together and Why No Women. The recording project was an amazing success — even better than I expected. Over the course of 3 days, we recorded about 9-10 hours of very unique material. Our purpose wasn’t to create expert-style, how-to material. Nor […]

Overcoming Trust Issues

Saturday, December 14th, 2013

How easy is it for you to trust other people? Do you trust people easily? Or are you often suspicious of others’ motives? Do you trust life enough that you can quit your uninspired job as soon as you recognize it as such, and know that life will bring you something even better? Or do […]

Why No Women?

Thursday, December 12th, 2013

In all the feedback I’ve received thus far about our Coaches Coming Together audio program in the works, the most common question I’m asked is: Why are there no women on your team? The simplest answer is that this happened mainly as a matter of logistics. It wasn’t really a pre-planned choice to put together […]

Coaches Coming Together

Tuesday, December 10th, 2013

The purpose of this post is to tell you about a new creative project I’m working on this week and to invite your feedback about it. Last weekend I spoke at Rich Litvin’s sold out┬áProsperous Coach Mastery Intensive in Marina del Rey, California. It was an amazing program, and Rich and his team did a […]

You Don’t Need to Overcome Approach Anxiety

Friday, October 11th, 2013

Many people use the label approach anxiety to describe the fear of starting a conversation with someone new. This is a common fear, and many people identify it as a stumbling block that supposedly prevents them from enjoying a rich and abundant social life. The truth is that working on overcoming “approach anxiety” is largely […]

D/s Play vs. Fairness and Equality

Sunday, October 6th, 2013

After posting my previous article about D/s Play, which many readers seemed to enjoy, someone asked about the point of playing the roles of the Dominant and the submissive. Why do this sort of thing? I think there are some other questions behind this question too: Aren’t fairness and equality in relationships much more sensible? […]

D/s Play

Saturday, October 5th, 2013

Many of us live in a repressed world. We don’t feel safe enough to share our truest, deepest desires with each other. We keep certain fantasies strictly to ourselves, hiding them where no one else is allowed to look. These desires are not allowed into the light — they’re our secret shame, our darkness denied. […]

How to Meet Your Needs Without Being Needy

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

On the one hand, we’re taught that we have certain needs as human beings, including survival needs (food, water, shelter, etc), emotional needs (belongingness, love), self esteem needs, etc. Whether or not all of these concepts qualify as true needs is debatable. The idea of there being a clear hierarchy of needs, such as Maslow’s, […]

Lifestyle Connect – Sep 28 in Bucharest, Romania

Sunday, September 22nd, 2013

Here’s a pleasant surprise for anyone in or near Bucharest, Romania this Saturday. I’ve been in Europe for about 3.5 weeks now, most of it spent in Bucharest. While I’ve been here, enjoying a whirlwind of amazing social connections and new experiences, I saw that there was some serious demand for a live personal growth […]