Relationships Category Archive

Your Relationship Purpose Statement

Friday, September 4th, 2015

A spiritual purpose statement answers the question: Why am I here? A spiritual purpose statement for a relationship answers the question: Why are we in each other’s lives? Yesterday I felt inspired to create a spiritual purpose statement for my relationship with Rachelle. I figured it would be simplest if I took a first stab […]

Would You Sleep With a Married Person?

Tuesday, August 25th, 2015

The title assumes of course that the married person isn’t married to you. In light of the recent Ashley Madison revelations, apparently millions of people in North America would have to answer yes to this question. This is a multi-layered question. Let’s peel off some of those layers and look at them individually, so you […]

How to Be Vegan

Thursday, May 21st, 2015

Here’s a primer on how to adopt and enjoy a long-term vegan lifestyle, which I’ve been doing for 18+ years. I’ll include a little advice on transitioning, but since it’s so easy to find good info on that with a simple Google search, I’ll focus more deeply on the long-term aspects of being vegan as opposed […]

Surviving Superintelligence

Thursday, April 30th, 2015

Suppose a group of superintelligent aliens came to earth. Or suppose that humans developed some advanced A.I. that’s far beyond our mental and physical abilities. If we could somehow communicate with these beings, what might we say to them? We might be too scared to say anything. We might just run and hide. But if […]

The Spiritual Path of Veganism

Wednesday, April 22nd, 2015

At the time of this writing, I’ve been vegan for more than 18 years (vegetarian for 22 years). I’ve already written about transitioning to veganism, which I did during the 1990s. This time I’ll share some thoughts and feelings about what it’s like to be vegan as opposed to becoming vegan, especially with respect to living in a […]

Getting Started with D/s Play

Wednesday, April 1st, 2015

Occasionally people ask me how to get started with D/s play (aka domination and submission) with a willing partner. Sometimes they don’t know what questions to ask or where to begin. So this article is specifically for such people who’d like a gentle introduction to D/s play and some tips to get started. I think this […]

Fatal Dating Mistakes

Wednesday, March 4th, 2015

Did you ever make a foolish mistake and screw up an otherwise good connection with someone you were attracted to? Maybe you made the mistake during your approach. You said or did the wrong thing at the wrong time and killed your chances. Or perhaps it happened during a date. Everything was going okay up […]

Make People Feel Good

Monday, March 2nd, 2015

A simple way to enjoy a happier and more abundant social life is to put some effort into making people feel good. Many people get so caught up thinking they have to rack up some accomplishments, get into better shape, become a person of high value, and more — just to give themselves permission to reach out and […]

Project Hugfest

Tuesday, February 24th, 2015

In the final afternoon of the Conscious Life Workshop in August 2014, I gave the group of 125 attendees a special challenge — to come up with a co-creative project that would provide value to others and that we could all do together in about 90 minutes. I played facilitator and referee during this time, but the group […]

Your Own Star Colony

Saturday, February 21st, 2015

My long-term path of exploring personal growth has often felt like repeatedly breaking orbit around a familiar star to go explore elsewhere in the galaxy. Usually this involves three stages: Recognizing that the familiar star is limiting my growth; becoming aware of its constraints Feeling increasingly attracted to new possibilities outside the current star system; […]