Relationships Category Archive

Can You Act Independently of Social Pressure?

Thursday, September 25th, 2014

One thing I really like about open relationships is the ability to learn through experience more quickly. There are valuable lessons to be learned from a long-term monogamous relationship, but I found that my understanding of relationships quickly accelerated with a more open attitude towards connections. This is a predictable consequence of being able to learn from a greater […]

Ones and Tens

Monday, September 22nd, 2014

When you present yourself to the world, do you have a tendency to sanitize your public image? Do you show other people, especially strangers, your safest and most socially acceptable aspects first? Do you find it sensible to avoid the risk of judgment so as to make socialization easier? When you get to know other people, do […]

Changing Your Culture

Sunday, September 21st, 2014

If you were to design your own human culture, what would you include? What would you leave out? Here are some basic design questions to consider, based on the three core principles of personal growth. Truth How would your culture relate to truth? Would you create a very honest, truth-based culture? Would your culture encourage […]

Social Media, You Got Dumped

Monday, July 7th, 2014

After careful consideration I’ve decided to opt out of participating in external social media sites. I no longer have active accounts with Twitter, Google+, Facebook, or YouTube. They’ve all been closed, deleted, or otherwise nuked. Yesterday I had tens of thousands of followers on those services. Now I have zero. To opt out even more […]

What Is Respect?

Thursday, June 12th, 2014

Respect often seems like a meaningful and powerful word. We claim that we want others to treat us with respect, and we dislike it when others show us disrespect. But what’s the real meaning of this word? The word respect has a number of definitions — feel free to look it up if you’d like — […]

Conscious Rejection

Tuesday, June 3rd, 2014

Over the past few days, I’ve made a lot of progress in resolving some of the ethical dilemmas I’ve been sharing recently. I’ve felt some significant shifts happening in how I choose to relate to people who support animal cruelty, such as modern factory farming. Tolerance In the past, my main way of dealing with […]

Maybe I’m the One Who’s Crazy Nutso

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

I’ve been receiving more feedback than usual about my last two articles, much of it pretty long and most of it sent privately. People have been encouraging me to share more along these lines. I think what they mean is that they’d like to see me share more about my own private thoughts and feelings, even […]

The Benefits of Cruelty

Monday, May 26th, 2014

As I continued to ponder the ideas I shared in my last post, I gave more thought to the idea of the potential hidden benefits of cruelty. When I used to do a lot of shoplifting in my late teens, aside from the self-destructive nature of those pursuits, there were some benefits as well. It […]

Thoughts on the Santa Barbara Shootings

Sunday, May 25th, 2014

I’ve been asked to share my thoughts about the recent shootings in Santa Barbara involving Elliot Rodger. If you haven’t heard the story yet, feel free to Google his name if you want to know the details. Normally I don’t like to comment on current events because I prefer to write more timeless content, but […]

Your Uncommon Diet Is a Social Advantage

Friday, January 3rd, 2014

I find it ironic (and mildly stupid) when people feel they’re at a social disadvantage if they eat differently from everyone else in a social situation, as if they have to conform to fit in. No, conformity puts you at an enormous social disadvantage. Being different is a godsend. Eating differently can enhance your social […]