It’s easy to get caught up in the pattern of thinking too much about what you don’t want. This includes noticing what you already have in your life but don’t like. If you think often about what you don’t want, it’s a safe bet you’ll make a mess of your life. Thinking about what you [...]

While consciously pursuing your spiritual development is commendable, joining an established religion such as Christianity, Islam, or Hinduism is one of the worst ways to go about it. In this article I’ll share 10 reasons why you must eventually abandon the baggage of organized religion if you wish to pursue conscious living in earnest. Since [...]

Here are the results from the “How to Be a Woman” writing challenge I posed at the end of last week’s “How to Be a Man” article. A total of 52 submissions were received. Erin and I both read every single one of them. By the time I was done, I felt like I’d just [...]

What does it mean to be a man today? How can men consciously express their masculinity without becoming cold or closed-hearted on the one hand… or wimpy and emasculated on the other? What’s the most loving way for a conscious man to express himself? Here are 10 ways to live more consciously as a man: [...]

Few men during their lifetime come anywhere near exhausting the resources dwelling within them. There are deep wells of strength that are never used. – Richard Byrd When you think of someone who’s extremely resourceful, what images come to mind? Do you think of someone who’s wealthy, well-connected, and in control of significant assets? Or [...]

Supposedly Buddha recommended avoiding extremism, suggesting we should instead pursue the middle path. But where exactly are the edges of the middle path? Does the middle path mean the average path, close to what everyone else is doing? No, I don’t think the middle path is something you can measure with an external yardstick. This is [...]

Why is it that so many people are willing to tolerate work they don’t enjoy for the sake of a paycheck? I think it’s because most of them simply don’t know what it’s really like to be in love with their work. Their fear is greater than their power, so they never make the leap [...]

A few days ago, I decided to do a simple journaling exercise. I wanted to make a quick list of 20 things I love about writing. However, when typing the number 20, I accidentally typed 200 instead. As I hit the backspace key to correct the error, I paused and said, “What the hell… I can [...]

A bad career choice can serve up some major emotional consequences.  First comes discontent and dissatisfaction.  Next comes frustration and overwhelm.  Then comes depression and learned helplessness.  And finally you get numbness and apathy.  This pattern normally plays out over a period of years, although the rate of progression is different for everyone. It’s sad to see people [...]

Choosing a career is a huge responsibility, both for men and women.  I think this is especially true for men though, since we’re socially conditioned to value our careers very highly and to mix our egos into our work.  It’s tough for many men to feel fulfilled and happy when their careers aren’t going well, even if everything else is working OK.  [...]