What determines the quality and quantity of your personal relationships? I think the #1 factor is your mindset towards relationships. There are many ways to frame the role of relationships in your life, and some options are more empowering than others. Look at relationships one way, and you’ll find it difficult to relate to others. But change […]
Could you recommend some of your all-time favorite books?
Sure.
Since the early 90s I’ve been reading about a book a week, so that adds up to quite a few books. I’ll scan my office bookshelves to recall which ones had a meaningful impact on me after I read them.
Here are some of my personal favorites in no […]
Many people have asked me how they can help someone who’s stuck in negative thinking or depression. Here are some tips on how to do that.
No matter what happens, stay positive
I once visited the house of an old acquaintance, and as soon as I saw him, I felt a wave of darkness pouring over me. I regretted stopping by almost immediately. No […]
Although I don’t have a boss, I understand that keeping one’s boss happy is a big priority for many people in the workplace. Humor can help you build and improve your relationship with your boss without appearing like a suck-up and without requiring you to take on extra work. It can even give you more job […]
Social drag is what happens when you undergo a significant personal shift, yet everyone around you still treats you the same. Suppose you’ve decided to switch careers. Even though you’re still working in your old career, mentally you’ve already made the leap to the new one, and it’s only a matter of time before your external reality […]
Recently I’ve been having some fun with something I call “bear bombing.” If my wife and kids decide they want to keep sleeping well past dawn, I grab my trusty digital kitchen timer (one with a very loud alarm), set the fuse for 4 seconds, and take up a position just outside one of their bedroom […]
Have you noticed that when you communicate with another person, sometimes you get a wonderfully effective exchange of information that leaves both of you changed for the better, and other times you just seem to butt heads with both of you only becoming more entrenched in your views?
What’s the difference?
The difference is that when you and […]
Arrogance (too hot)
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. - Proverbs 16:18
Arrogance is overbearing pride that attempts to juxtapose others as inferior to yourself. Although this quality is considered honorable among Klingons, it tends to annoy human beings.
Arrogance makes genuine socialization difficult because it paints others into a competitive position. By treating others as […]
After seeing my results over the past 16 months, my wife was inspired to start her own web site and blog. She recently launched ErinPavlina.com. Her site just has a few articles right now, but with the time she’s been putting into it, I don’t think it will be long before she has an abundance […]
A reader sent me a link to a 50-question multiple choice quiz to determine your Autism Quotient. Autism is basically what you get when you take introversion to the extreme — to the point where you can no longer function well in social situations.
I don’t put too much diagnostic faith in online quizzes, but […]
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