People Skills Category Archive

Relationship Abundance – Video

Monday, August 19th, 2013

Here’s the full video of my talk on Relationship Abundance from last year’s Morten Hake Summit in Oslo, Norway. Topics covered include: cultivating a positive relationship with reality as a whole (including receiving the financial support you desire) overcoming relationship neediness how to invite and enjoy relationship abundance being transparent and authentic in your relationship […]

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

On my Google+ page, I recently shared the following: To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches. It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for […]

How to Invite Cuddling Without Inviting Sex

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

I’ve been getting lots of inquisitive feedback regarding my recent article on open relationships, especially with respect to the section on deeper friendships. One question that a few women asked me essentially boils down to this: I really love cuddling, but I have a hard time inviting guys to cuddle with me because they might […]

How to Release Neediness

Monday, October 8th, 2012

Learn to notice and appreciate the hidden abundance obscured by scarcity and lack, and more abundance will flow to you. Although I enjoy some very nice abundance in my life today (time freedom, work I love, travel, wonderful friends, amazing kids), I don’t need anything in particular to feel rich. As I see it, I […]

Dealing With Others’ Insecurities

Monday, September 24th, 2012

How can you effectively deal with other people’s insecurities? What if you and your partner decide to explore open relationships, but when the opportunity to act on this arises, your partner goes a bit kittywompus and becomes extra clingy and uncertain about it? Or maybe you can tell they aren’t feeling so good about it […]

Why Are You Hiding?

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

In case you thought it was for real, my previous post about the Domination-Submission Workshop was indeed an April Fools joke. Anyone who clicked on the “Register Now” button would have seen the “April Fools” message. I still think the phony D/s workshop sales page was pretty awesome. I also had way too much fun […]

New Domination-Submission Workshop

Sunday, April 1st, 2012

Originally I had planned to hold off on doing any new workshops till the Fall, but I got inspired by an idea for a new one, and I know from experience that it’s important to take action when inspiration strikes. This idea also meshes nicely with the social expansion I’ve been enjoying lately. I’d normally […]

How to Create Intimacy

Thursday, March 29th, 2012

In this post I’ll share some deep thoughts on how to consciously create intimate connections with other people. I’ll also explain the mindset/heartset that can help you overcome any fear of rejection. The Myth of “The One” When I first started out in business (developing computer games in the mid-90s), I sank into debt for […]

Approach Anxiety

Monday, January 23rd, 2012

Several months ago I was speaking with my friend Morty Lefkoe about fears and limiting beliefs that I noticed among my readers. I shared with him that one of the biggest problem areas was approach anxiety. While many readers appear to be very social online, it’s common for them to be pretty socially timid in […]

Love Your Customers

Wednesday, September 14th, 2011

Let me share a possibly unorthodox angle on customer service. One reason my business has been successful is that I enjoy running it. A big part of that enjoyment is that I genuinely like the people my business attracts as long-term customers. I include many of them among my friends and hang out with them […]