People Skills Category Archive

Can You Act Independently of Social Pressure?

Thursday, September 25th, 2014

One thing I really like about open relationships is the ability to learn through experience more quickly. There are valuable lessons to be learned from a long-term monogamous relationship, but I found that my understanding of relationships quickly accelerated with a more open attitude towards connections. This is a predictable consequence of being able to learn from a greater […]

Ones and Tens

Monday, September 22nd, 2014

When you present yourself to the world, do you have a tendency to sanitize your public image? Do you show other people, especially strangers, your safest and most socially acceptable aspects first? Do you find it sensible to avoid the risk of judgment so as to make socialization easier? When you get to know other people, do […]

Changing Your Culture

Sunday, September 21st, 2014

If you were to design your own human culture, what would you include? What would you leave out? Here are some basic design questions to consider, based on the three core principles of personal growth. Truth How would your culture relate to truth? Would you create a very honest, truth-based culture? Would your culture encourage […]

What Is Respect?

Thursday, June 12th, 2014

Respect often seems like a meaningful and powerful word. We claim that we want others to treat us with respect, and we dislike it when others show us disrespect. But what’s the real meaning of this word? The word respect has a number of definitions — feel free to look it up if you’d like — […]

Conscious Rejection

Tuesday, June 3rd, 2014

Over the past few days, I’ve made a lot of progress in resolving some of the ethical dilemmas I’ve been sharing recently. I’ve felt some significant shifts happening in how I choose to relate to people who support animal cruelty, such as modern factory farming. Tolerance In the past, my main way of dealing with […]

You Don’t Need to Overcome Approach Anxiety

Friday, October 11th, 2013

Many people use the label approach anxiety to describe the fear of starting a conversation with someone new. This is a common fear, and many people identify it as a stumbling block that supposedly prevents them from enjoying a rich and abundant social life. The truth is that working on overcoming “approach anxiety” is largely […]

How to Meet Your Needs Without Being Needy

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

On the one hand, we’re taught that we have certain needs as human beings, including survival needs (food, water, shelter, etc), emotional needs (belongingness, love), self esteem needs, etc. Whether or not all of these concepts qualify as true needs is debatable. The idea of there being a clear hierarchy of needs, such as Maslow’s, […]

Meeting in Person

Saturday, September 14th, 2013

This is a personal follow-up to my last article about Enjoying Rich and Abundant Relationships. Basically I took that article and went even further with it, which led to a decision to undertake a significant recalibration of my social and relationship life, starting now. This decision was partly inspired by my time in Europe (I’ve […]

Relationship Abundance – Video

Monday, August 19th, 2013

Here’s the full video of my talk on Relationship Abundance from last year’s Morten Hake Summit in Oslo, Norway. Topics covered include: cultivating a positive relationship with reality as a whole (including receiving the financial support you desire) overcoming relationship neediness how to invite and enjoy relationship abundance being transparent and authentic in your relationship […]

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

On my Google+ page, I recently shared the following: To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches. It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for […]