People Skills Category Archive

You Don’t Need to Overcome Approach Anxiety

Friday, October 11th, 2013

Many people use the label approach anxiety to describe the fear of starting a conversation with someone new. This is a common fear, and many people identify it as a stumbling block that supposedly prevents them from enjoying a rich and abundant social life. The truth is that working on overcoming “approach anxiety” is largely […]

How to Meet Your Needs Without Being Needy

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

On the one hand, we’re taught that we have certain needs as human beings, including survival needs (food, water, shelter, etc), emotional needs (belongingness, love), self esteem needs, etc. Whether or not all of these concepts qualify as true needs is debatable. The idea of there being a clear hierarchy of needs, such as Maslow’s, […]

Meeting in Person

Saturday, September 14th, 2013

This is a personal follow-up to my last article about Enjoying Rich and Abundant Relationships. Basically I took that article and went even further with it, which led to a decision to undertake a significant recalibration of my social and relationship life, starting now. This decision was partly inspired by my time in Europe (I’ve […]

Relationship Abundance – Video

Monday, August 19th, 2013

Here’s the full video of my talk on Relationship Abundance from last year’s Morten Hake Summit in Oslo, Norway. Topics covered include: cultivating a positive relationship with reality as a whole (including receiving the financial support you desire) overcoming relationship neediness how to invite and enjoy relationship abundance being transparent and authentic in your relationship […]

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

On my Google+ page, I recently shared the following: To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches. It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for […]

How to Invite Cuddling Without Inviting Sex

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

I’ve been getting lots of inquisitive feedback regarding my recent article on open relationships, especially with respect to the section on deeper friendships. One question that a few women asked me essentially boils down to this: I really love cuddling, but I have a hard time inviting guys to cuddle with me because they might […]

How to Release Neediness

Monday, October 8th, 2012

Learn to notice and appreciate the hidden abundance obscured by scarcity and lack, and more abundance will flow to you. Although I enjoy some very nice abundance in my life today (time freedom, work I love, travel, wonderful friends, amazing kids), I don’t need anything in particular to feel rich. As I see it, I […]

Dealing With Others’ Insecurities

Monday, September 24th, 2012

How can you effectively deal with other people’s insecurities? What if you and your partner decide to explore open relationships, but when the opportunity to act on this arises, your partner goes a bit kittywompus and becomes extra clingy and uncertain about it? Or maybe you can tell they aren’t feeling so good about it […]

Why Are You Hiding?

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

In case you thought it was for real, my previous post about the Domination-Submission Workshop was indeed an April Fools joke. Anyone who clicked on the “Register Now” button would have seen the “April Fools” message. I still think the phony D/s workshop sales page was pretty awesome. I also had way too much fun […]

New Domination-Submission Workshop

Sunday, April 1st, 2012

Originally I had planned to hold off on doing any new workshops till the Fall, but I got inspired by an idea for a new one, and I know from experience that it’s important to take action when inspiration strikes. This idea also meshes nicely with the social expansion I’ve been enjoying lately. I’d normally […]