My interest in polyamory isn’t primarily about finding other sex partners. The real reason is to enjoy close, emotionally intimate connections with other people. Emotional intimacy and genuine friendship are the most important factors. Those relationships may or may not include physical intimacy as well. A common misconception is that polyamory is all about the [...]
“Perhaps our greatest acts of violence are reserved not for those experiences that are most foreign to us but for the ones that are closest to the truth about ourselves.” – Jonathan Mooney In this article I’ll candidly share my thoughts about polyamory, monogamy, marriage, and about intimate relationships in general. Hurt One issue that [...]
As a follow-up to yesterday’s post about leaving monogamy behind in order to pursue polyamory, here are answers to some questions I’ve been asked. The last question is answered by Erin. What effect will polyamory have on your marriage with Erin? Since I’ve never done anything like this before, it’s hard to say. Surely it [...]
In this post I’m going to share some things I’ve never shared publicly before, some of which you might find a bit surprising. At the start of each new year, I like to pick a primary focus for the upcoming year. I prefer doing this instead of making a New Year’s resolution because it’s more [...]
As a follow-up to the last article, let’s tackle the question of how to discern whether or not you’re creating and delivering real value. The simple answer is that you know you’re creating value when you can see tangible positive changes in the world as a result of your creative output. Weak Value Suppose I [...]
Now that I’ve been back on solid foods for about a week, I have some final thoughts to share on my 30-day juice feast. I don’t want to rehash what I already shared in my Day 31 update, so I’ll try to offer some new insights. Back to Solids – and Eating More Fat Again [...]
At the Tampa I Can Do It! conference, I attended a workshop by Andrew Harvey on Sacred Activism. I met Andrew a few months ago when we were on a panel with Alan Cohen and Summer McStravick for Hay House Radio. Andrew is a fiery, passionate individual with a powerful message about ridding our lives [...]
Why should we bother to care about other people? Is it okay to live just for ourselves? Is it good enough to do no harm? Is there any reason we should go out of our way to help other people? I used to not care about people. I mean really not care. I know what [...]
Many people assume I went vegetarian and then vegan because I care about animals. That’s a common perception, but as I’ve mentioned before, it isn’t the truth. The truth is essentially the opposite. My compassion for animals developed only after I made these dietary changes. Going vegetarian in 1993 and then vegan in 1997 both [...]
If you’re up for some fresh content, Zen Habits just posted a monstrous new interview with me. Leo Babauta asked really good questions, so I gave them a lot of thought. This interview is very long — nearly 7,000 words — about the length of a typical book chapter. I promise you it isn’t fluff [...]