Courage & Fear Category Archive

Volunteering

Monday, March 9th, 2009

Many people suggest that doing volunteer work is a great way to open your heart to new experiences. I totally agree. When I was in high school, I did volunteer work at two different places, helping out for about 50 hours at each place. Working With Seniors The first place was a convalescent home near LAX (Los Angeles Airport). I must […]

Initiating Relationships with Openness, Honesty, and Directness

Wednesday, January 21st, 2009

I’ve never resonated with the usual dating and courtship process. Traditional dating is actually one of our society’s most ineffective inventions. The main reason it gets so much attention is the commercial engine that drives it. Restaurants, movie theatres, jewelers, etc. want you to believe that spending money on their products and services equals romance. […]

Why Polyamory?

Monday, January 19th, 2009

My interest in polyamory isn’t primarily about finding other sex partners. The real reason is to enjoy close, emotionally intimate connections with other people. Emotional intimacy and genuine friendship are the most important factors. Those relationships may or may not include physical intimacy as well. A common misconception is that polyamory is all about the […]

Polyamory

Friday, January 2nd, 2009

“Perhaps our greatest acts of violence are reserved not for those experiences that are most foreign to us but for the ones that are closest to the truth about ourselves.” – Jonathan Mooney In this article I’ll candidly share my thoughts about polyamory, monogamy, marriage, and about intimate relationships in general. Hurt One issue that […]

Polyamorous Relationship Q&A

Thursday, January 1st, 2009

As a follow-up to yesterday’s post about leaving monogamy behind in order to pursue polyamory, here are answers to some questions I’ve been asked. The last question is answered by Erin. What effect will polyamory have on your marriage with Erin? Since I’ve never done anything like this before, it’s hard to say. Surely it […]

2009 Focus – Intimate Relationships

Wednesday, December 31st, 2008

In this post I’m going to share some things I’ve never shared publicly before, some of which you might find a bit surprising. At the start of each new year, I like to pick a primary focus for the upcoming year. I prefer doing this instead of making a New Year’s resolution because it’s more […]

How to Make Lots of Money During a Recession

Tuesday, December 9th, 2008

A recession is possibly the best time to launch a new business or to expand an existing one. It’s also a great time to get ahead in your career. I know this sounds counter-intuitive, so let me ‘splain. First, the media goes nuts during a recession. They turn a little bit of negativity into a […]

Calibration

Thursday, December 4th, 2008

In personal development terms, calibration is the process of progressively refining your thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors until you shift your equilibrium to the point where you can consistently achieve the results you desire. Just as you might calibrate a scientific instrument to provide consistently accurate measurements, you can calibrate your skills to generate consistently good […]

Share Your Shame

Saturday, November 15th, 2008

What personal stories have you locked away in the secret vault of your mind, vowing never to share them publicly? What would shame you terribly if it were ever posted on the Internet and connected with your real name for anyone to see? What events or habits from your past or present would you feel […]

Fanatical About Growth

Wednesday, November 12th, 2008

Some recurring feedback I’ve received about my juice feast goes like this: Steve, you’re encountering lots of obstacles on this juice feast such as food cravings, feeling sick, and emotional yo-yoing. Ergo, this is clearly the wrong path, and you should quit. I hear similar feedback whenever I conduct public experiments. It makes no difference […]